Day 19 Alyssa Day – It’s About The Courage

Braving It Together

Drama isn’t love

The CursedI read romance because it’s about courage. It takes a lot of courage to fall in love in this world filled with crap like “Carlos Danger,” and “he’s just not that into you, because he’s a loser who can’t commit,” and “pick any marriage you know that’s falling apart and insert here.” Falling in love means you put your heart out there – right out there—to potentially get stomped on, and really, who needs it, because there’s probably a new episode of Breaking Bad on, and if you thought YOU had problems, hey, Walter White’s family is in a WAY worse situation, but you know it’s fiction so you don’t feel like a bad person when you grab the popcorn and settle in to watch, and you don’t even have to get dressed UP, or wear MAKEUP, you can watch in your old t-shirt and your stretchy pants . . .

Whoa. Maybe not the stretchy pants. Step away from the stretchy pants. In fact, BURN the stretchy pants.

Okay, back to falling in love and courage. We’ve all been up and down and up and down and up and down that road before, and sometimes it’s hard to brush off our wounded hearts and our broken courage to put ourselves out there one more time. But when we do—well, sometimes magic happens. Not the kind of magic that happens between a wizard and a half-Fae, half-demon princess, like in my book THE CURSED, although that’s pretty fun, too, but the ordinary kind of magic—the extraordinary kind of magic–that comes from two people finding each other and realizing that they’re better together than they ever would have been apart.

That they genuinely love exploring life and the world together. Or adopting rescue dogs together. Or laughing and loving and fighting and making up and discovering that it takes courage to face every little bit of life, but that sometimes it helps a lot to have someone there to lean on. To share their courage; to lend you a little or a lot and then turn around the next week and have you do the same for them. And to believe, always and always and always, in happily ever after.

That’s pretty damn brave all by itself.


Looking for a debut novel with fun characters and a real, live cowboy? Let me recommend Abigail Sharpe’s Who Wants to Marry a Cowboy. I can’t wait for the sequel, Who Wants to Marry a Doctor.

Questions for the Alyssa:

 What is the craziest or ugliest object in your house, and why do you keep it?

A miniature Sumo wrestler figurine my husband gave me. We have an ongoing bet over who can bring home the ugliest, tackiest gift (must be a miniature, so the stuff doesn’t take over our house) from a trip and Navy Guy totally won with this one. I’m plotting revenge…

If there was a movie made about your life, what would it be called? (And just for fun, who would play you?)

It would be called “Roller Skates on My Furniture” because I’ve lived in so many different places as an Air Force brat and a Navy wife. And I would want Melissa McCarthy to play me, because humor is my best and favorite resort when things are crazy, and she is the funniest actress working today.

What is the best non-monetary gift you’ve ever been given?

A cheetah in shining armor my son had made especially for me after I rescued him from the hell of a mosquito-infested swamp where his deranged Scout leader had taken the troop camping. It took two entire tubes of Cortisone cream and a box of Benadryl to get him past that nightmare…

If you had to pick one romantic scene or couple to recommend to a first-time reader of YOUR books, which would it be? (Any picks for romance novels in general?)

Ven and Erin from ATLANTIS AWAKENING, from my Warriors of Poseidon novels. He is one of the funniest characters I’ve ever written—a warrior who loves cheesy horror movies like THE BLOB—and she is a very powerful witch who doesn’t put up with any of his alpha over-protectiveness. They were so much fun to write.

As for favorite romance novel couples, I have far too many to name, but recently I’ve really loved Michael and Silence in SCANDALOUS DESIRES by Elizabeth Hoyt. It is absolutely impossible for these two to fall in love, until they do.

You are reading this essay at Be sure to visit the About Read-A-Romance Month to learn more, or the Authors & Contributors page to see a list of all the great romance writers who are participating in celebrating the romance genre during the month of August.  Also visit the Awesome Contests page to see how you can register each week to win “A Month of Romance” (31 books), e-readers, and even the Grand Central Grand Prize, an iPad mini. If you love romance, then this is the place to be!

Alyssa is generously donating three copies of  THE CURSED to give away (two U.S. only, and one for international readers  (International readers enter here).  U.S. readers, to enter, either leave a comment here or enter the weekly drawing on the contest page. Or both.  (Only one entry per commenter per post, though – multiple comments on one essay does not give you more chances.)  Comment entries must be posted by 11:59pm EST Aug 19 to be eligible, though winners will be announced the following week.

Alyssa DayAlyssa Day is the pen name (and dark and tortured alter ego) of RITA award-winning Alesia Holliday. As Alyssa, she writes the New York Times and USA Today best-selling Warriors of Poseidon and League of the Black Swan series.   As Alesia, she writes comedies that make readers snort things out of their noses, and is the author of the award-winning memoir about military families during war-time deployments: EMAIL TO THE FRONT.  As Lucy Connors, she writes gritty contemporary novels for teens; the first, THE LONESOME YOUNG, will be out in April, 2014. She’s a diehard Buckeye who graduated summa cum laude from Capital University Law School and practiced as a trial lawyer in multi-million dollar litigation for several years before coming to her senses and letting the voices in her head loose on paper. She lives somewhere near an ocean with her Navy Guy husband, two kids, and any number of rescue dogs.  Please visit her at

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  • Kim Cornwell

    Love meeting new authors. Thanks for stoping by and sharing.

  • Abigail Sharpe

    THANK YOU for the shout out, Alyssa! You’ve completely made my day. My week, even. And, I’d venture to say, my month. 🙂

    • lol – lots going on this month, though! ;o) Thanks for the tweet, too, both of you. The Shaker Library loved it. xoxo

      • Abigail Sharpe

        This day just keeps getting better. And so does *this* Day. *grin*

  • Jen C

    This post really strikes a chord in me. While in graduate school, I had anxiety and depression (who doesn’t, really, in grad school?), but now that I think about it, my healing began when I started reading romances. They certainly gave me courage — courage to be strong, to be the woman I had grown into, and to finish what I started (my dissertation). When my therapy came to an end, I even game my therapist a gift — Robyn Carr’s “Virgin River”, one of the first romances I read and one of the most significant in my path to courage. Thanks to you for such a great addition to RARM!

  • Karin Anderson

    But I love my stretchy pants. 😀

  • Melanie Backus

    Happily ever after is the best!

  • TrishJ

    Stretchy pants, too funny. I love getting lost in a good romance book. The sun is always shining and the birds are singing.

  • MK

    I like the roller skates on the furniture part! I feel like that too- we move so often

  • Nancy Huddleston

    I loved, loved, loved that series. Its the first books I read by you. Thanks.

  • Valerie

    I love your movie title. I am an Army brat so I know the feeling 🙂

  • Meredith Richardson

    I love your Warriors of Poseidon series. I can’t wait to check out The Cursed!! I really enjoyed your essay, you’re so right about having the courage to put yourself out there. I’ve always been really shy about men and end up tongue tied.. sometimes talking to guys requires more courage then climbing a mountain or fighting vampires lol… not that I’ve ever done either.

  • Sue G.

    Have never read any of your books but I’m always looking for new authors.

    • Hi, Sue –

      Could you please send me an email at bobbiwrites at att dot net? Thank you, hope to hear from you soon.

  • Melissa Cowling Terry

    I love your movie title. I grew up a Air Force Brat too.

  • Mary McCoy

    Alyssa, I love your cheetah in shining armor! Thank you for all your books and I look forward to reading Abigail Sharpe’s books at your recommendation.

  • mariannewestrich

    I understand the furniture with roller skates – I’m a Coast Guard Brat! 😎 Look forward to reading The Cursed.

  • Ann

    Falling in love truly does take courage! Thank you!

  • Laurie W G

    New author for me. I’m enjoying everyone ‘s views on romance!

  • Dianna Yvonne Clark Allen

    I LOVE the warriors of Poseidon series. I am looking forward to reading The League of the Black Swan series. Enjoy having Navy Man home again 🙂

  • Britney Adams

    Thank you for sharing!

  • Carrie Marie

    great article! and that cheetah is adorable. way to rescue your son from the bugs! 😀

  • Tonda Galloway Hargett

    I’m loving this, finding new to me authors that I can’t wait to read!

  • Kareni

    I hadn’t realized that you wrote in other genres, Ms. Day. I’ll now be on the lookout for those books.

  • Ann Mettert

    I need to read your humor stuff after reading this. 🙂

  • ki pha

    Great post. You always have to give love a whirl for it to work and become a stronger person even if sometime you’ll hate or regret it. But the ugliest thing you have is a sumo? I’ll like to see that. But what would defeat that little wrestler? 😀

  • Beth Re

    I think your husband has won the ugliest item contest LOL

  • Beverly DeeAnjello

    I love your paranormal romances, they definitely take me away from everyday life.

  • Jan Jackson

    ” ‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” – Tennyson. Love is worth the risk. Great post!

  • Pamby50

    It takes courage to fall in love. It takes even more courge to choose that person over your family. That is another reason why I love to read romance.

  • eclecticwillow

    Oh, I loved Ven. A great book and a great series!

  • glittergirl54

    I love your imagination that make your romance adventures so much fun. Thanks for sharing it with us readers! Best of wishes on your newest adventure =D

  • rebecca moe

    Loved your post! I’ll definitely be checking out your Warriors of Poseidon books–they sound great 🙂

  • gamistress66

    love the contest w/ your husband idea 😉 sounds like a fun thing to do

  • Glenda

    And sometimes great courage is shown by wearing the stretchy pants in public. 😀

  • Elizabeth Gray

    I have as yet read the Atlantis series, but have heard great things. And the new series as well. Can’t wait to read them.

  • Your novels sound incredible! Can’t believe I haven’t heard of them before. Thanks so much for posting today! I love getting introduced to new authors. 🙂

  • Katy M

    Thank you for your essay on bravery – it inspired me. The new series looks great!

  • Rowan Worth

    Love the cover!! And the cheetah story is DARLING.

  • Janie McGaugh

    You have a pretty fantastic son to (at his age) show such appreciation to his mom!

  • Donna Kemp

    This is a great message. Thank you for your wonderful books

  • BookLady

    Atlantis Awakening sounds like a great book. I love alpha heroes with a sense of humor. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on real-life romance.

  • Kim

    Great post! It’s great that you and your husband compete for the ugliest miniature gift!

  • Amy Livesay Hart

    Am definitely interested in reading your work!

  • Stephanie Fredrick

    Wonderful interview. Romance is such a great genre for all your reasons and it allows us all to live out our fantasies. It is real magic when you find that one perfect person for you.
    Love your series. Atlantis series are such romantic and sexy reads.

  • Marcia Berbeza

    LOVE paranormal romance. It mixes two of my favorite genres and then serves them up in a delicious package! Being married to a former Navy guy myself, I’ve always been grateful that he isn’t a traveling man like my father. Being able to spend the last 30 years in the same house has been a blessing.

  • Barbara E.

    Great post Alyssa! I love all kinds of romance, and that’s the best thing about it, there’s something for everyone. I’m partial to paranormal and historical, but steampunk has got my interest a lot lately as well.

  • Larena Hubble

    Love can definitely be amazing. I love how romances have all of that and you can see if all unfold.

  • Bernadette Long

    I haven’t read any of your books yet, but I’m looking forward to picking some up soon.

  • leah g

    I completely agree. It is super courageous to put yourself out there. I haven’t checked out your books yet. I am excited to have another entry in my too read list!

  • Shari

    I agree marriage takes courage and work.

  • donnas

    Braving it together is a perfect title for this, its amazing how much that really does mean.

  • Flora Segura-Buchler

    Spot on, Alyssa! It really does take courage to make that leap of faith that is love. Well said.