Day 14 Carly Phillips – Real-Life and Fantasy Romance

CarlyPhillips_DaretoDesire_HRWhat is Romance?

What is Romance? Is it the perfect gift? The bouquet of flowers? The huge heart shaped box of candy on Valentine’s Day, or on your birthday or anniversary? Or is it the little blue velvet (or whatever) color jewelry box from your favorite store? Maybe it’s seriously sappy cards? Or humorous fun ones.

Before I give my opinion, I admit to loving all of these things. I’ve been married 25 years this July 1 and my heart still does a little leap when the florist comes. Honestly, my husband isn’t a “true romantic” and that’s okay. As long as there’s a way he remembers important dates, I’m happy.

The fact is, a lot of men just aren’t wired to be romantic. Even if you’ve tried to retrain them, they just don’t think that way. Some weren’t raised that way. Still, if they value you and have their own way of showing it, that should be enough. Which doesn’t mean that we don’t need the fantasy, hence the Romance Hero. The Book Boyfriend. He can step in and show his heroine just how special and important she is to him. That’s the escape from reality, why we read Romance.

But we live in the real world and that means accepting men for who they are. For me, I don’t need the big fancy gift or the flowers (although it’s nice when I get them.) We’re usually leaving for a family vacation right after Valentine’s Day which makes flowers that will die while I’m gone a waste of money. But it’s enough for my man to say “I would have gotten you flowers but we’re leaving the next day.” That tells me he remembered.

That said, I have also learned to tell him what I want for any given holiday – birthdays and the like, and then sometimes I even go out and buy it. He does the same. That way we each get what we like, no one is disappointed or upset with the other for forgetting. And we do get each other cards … Romantic? Maybe not to some. But it works for me.

To answer my original question, what is romance? It’s the little things all year round that mean the most. To know he’s there when I need him, that he takes care of me in his own special way. But I wouldn’t return anything inside a little velvet box, ::hint:: ::hint::


I love reading. I jump in and devour books. The best thing in the world is finding a new to me author and having a whole back list to go through! I have so many writer friends and writers I love to read it’s hard to pick just a few.

Lexi Blake – Masters and Mercenaries series – it’s sizzling hot (BDSM) erotic romance – a bit of romantic suspense, a whole lot of alpha male and strong women. Love.

Juliana Stone – writes a combination of sexy tear jerker to comedic enjoyment – from The Barker Triplets to The Bad Boys of Crystal Lake … I love her books.

Shelly Laurenston – shifter insanity. I can’t describe it any better. She’s amazing.

 Questions For The Author

Describe the most daring, adventurous or inspiring thing you ever did.

I went parasailing in Aruba. And I took my daughter with me. Today, when I see the scary stories in the news about people getting hurt, I wonder what the heck I was thinking!

DareToSurrender_highres Tell us about your journey to becoming a writer. (How did you decide to get started? Did you always know or was there a specific moment when you knew?)

Oh, I never knew I wanted to be a writer. Now that I am one, I can look back and see the “signs”. I told stories in my head when I was bored, on long car rides, to put myself to sleep. I put myself in situations where I needed to be rescued by whichever hot guy I liked at the moment. To sum up, I’m kinda nuts. As for my journey, when my first daughter was born, she was colicky and cranky and I needed an escape. I’d always been a reader but I read hardcover and whatever my mom read. When my husband let me know we couldn’t afford my reading habit (one h.c. a day), he sent me off to buy paperback. This led me to the Romance section of the bookstore and when I figured out I could always be happy with the ending of a book – that the main character could end up with the right guy – I was hooked. Eventually I decided I wanted to TRY to write one … and the rest is history!

Tell us about The (or A) Book That Changed Your Life. (Why?)

Hmm. I guess I would choose the book I read that made me want to try writing romance- LaVyrle Spencer’s Separate Beds. I reread it recently … still loved it but could not believe the differences in how point of view was handled! But a solid good love story J

Carly is generously giving away 2 ebook copies of DARE TO LOVE to a domestic winner (entry form below), and one to an international winner (enter here.) Winner’s choice of eBook format.

#8173 Carly Website PhotoAfter a successful fifteen year career with various New York publishing houses, and over 40 sexy contemporary romance novels published, N.Y. Times and USA Today Bestselling Author Carly Phillips is now an Indie author who writes to her own expectations and that of her readers.  She continues the tradition of hot men and strong women and plans to publish many more sizzling stories.  Carly lives in Purchase, NY with her family, two nearly adult daughters and two crazy dogs who star on her Facebook Fan Page and website.  She’s a writer, a knitter of sorts, a wife, and a mom. In addition, she’s a Twitter and Internet junkie and is always around to interact with her readers. You can find out more about Carly at

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