Day 18 Colleen Hoover – The Good Ones Do Exist

Who Needs Bad Boys?

Back in May, my husband and I celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary. I couldn’t believe it. 14 years. If you counted the hooverthree years we dated before we got married, that was 17 years and half of my life. Half of my life we’ve been together, and I still love him. Of course we’ve had hard times; who hasn’t? But it definitely got me thinking about the last 14 years and what it is about him that has kept me around all this time.

I also started thinking about all of the male characters in my books. I don’t ever write “bad boys”. My characters are all just the boy-next-door type. (Literally, almost all of them actually live next door to the female lead). At the time, I realized that I somewhat model these characters after the man I married. I made a list of qualities and characteristics I thought the perfect man would possess, and it turned out I was actually describing my husband the whole time.

Readers are always asking me where they can find their very own Will, Holder, Daniel, or Ridge. I figure there’s no better way to celebrate romance than to prove to all of you that the good ones DO exist, and that the perfect boyfriend (or husband) can not only be found in a book, but in real life.

This is the list I made that day:

1) He would let me sleep in every single morning while he wakes up and dresses the children and drives them over twenty miles to school every day.

2) He would never complain about how much I work, even when sometimes he doesn’t see me for days at a time.fccover

3) He would make me lunch every day and bring it to my office, because he knows how busy I get.

4) He would let me travel the world and he would never complain about having to stay back home with the children.

5) He would tell me he loves me every single day, no matter what.

6) He would make the bed every day, even though I think making the bed is a waste of time. But I secretly love a made bed.

7) He would do laundry. All of it, so that I never have to do laundry.

8) He would do homework with the children every night.

9) He would play with the children. Like genuinely play with them, because he loves spending time with them more than anything in the world.

10)  He would listen to all my rants, even though he’s really tired of hearing about fictional characters.

11) He would understand that writing books is a really weird job and sometimes I’m not all here mentally, even when I’m staring at him and nodding my head. And he would understand.

12) He wouldn’t question me when I grab my keys and walk out of the house at midnight and say, “I need to go for a drive.”losing hope

13) He would be patient and never yell and always tell me I’m right.

14) He would never argue when I want to go hang out with the girls, or with my sisters or go gambling with my mom. He would just say, “Okay, be careful, babe.”

15) He wouldn’t know the meaning of jealousy, because he trusts me immensely.

16) He would laugh at my jokes, even if they were dumb. Even though none of the jokes I make are dumb.

17) He would tell me I’m tough when I give birth to all our children without medicine, and he would brag about me for years afterward to anyone who will listen.

18) He would make sure I always have Diet Pepsi’s stocked in the fridge. Always.

19) He would hug and kiss his boys every single day and tell them he loves them.

20) He would never take a single thing he has for granted, because he’s had nothing before and he’s had it all before, and he knows first-hand that family is the only thing that matters.

21) He would listen to The Avett Brothers with me, even though it’s “not his kind of music” and then eventually he would admit that he really does like their music now.

22) He would never complain. Ever. He would be selfless and good and he would make me want to be selfless and good.

Sounds like the best fictional book boyfriend ever, doesn’t it? It’s not. It’s my life and he’s my husband and every single day I wonder what I did right in life to get the very best one.


Colleen Hoover recommends reading novels from authors Tarryn Fisher and Amy Harmon. (Amy did a RARM post too! You can read it here.)

Questions for the Author

Describe the most daring, adventurous or inspiring thing you ever did?

I don’t do very many daring or adventurous things. I think one of the most adventurous things I’ve ever done was write my first book, Slammed. I had always wanted to write a book, and I finally decided to do it. I won’t say it was daring, though, because if I had known so many people would read it, I don’t think I’d have had the courage to write it.

 Tell us about your journey to becoming a writer. (How did you decide to get started? Did you always know or was there a specific moment when you knew?)

I always knew I wanted to write for a living, but I’d given up on that dream in my early twenties. I’d originally gone to school for journalism, but I was young, married, and had a baby. I just didn’t have the time I needed to put into writing to make it my career. On top of that, I knew how difficult it was to be successful as a writer. It wasn’t until November 2011 that I finally decided to write my first novel. I did it for myself, because it was fun. I didn’t expect to make a career out of it and I didn’t really expect anyone to read it. I couldn’t be more grateful for just how wrong I was.

 Tell us about The (or A) Book That Changed Your Life. (Why?)

Can I cheat on this question? Before I wrote Slammed, I honestly wasn’t a big reader. I did read, but it was usually true crime novels. I had never read a romance novel before I wrote one. However, I’ve always been a music junkie. There’s a lyric in a song by The Avett Brothers called Head Full of Doubt/Road Full of Promise. The lyric is “decide what to be and go be it”. I was at one of their concerts when they sang that lyric to me. Yes, it was just The Avett Brothers and I, alone in a room, as they told me to decide what to be and go be it. Or at least that’s how it felt. That was the moment I decided I needed to write.

Colleen Hoover’s new book, Since Ugly Love, is being released on August 5th. In honor of this, Colleen has generously decided to give away three copies of her new book for three different winners, two U.S. readers (entry below) and one international reader (enter here).


Colleen Hoover recommends reading novels from authors Tarryn Fisher and Amy Harmon.


Colleen Hoover is the author of five New York Times bestselling novels. Her first series was published in 2012 and includes Slammed, Point of Retreat, and This Girl. Her second series, published in 2013, includes the #1 NYT’s bestseller Hopeless and the companion novel, Losing Hope. She has released a free novella, Finding Cinderella, as a thank you to her readers for their continued support. The novella is a companion to her Hopeless series, but can be read as a standalone.

Colleen lives in East Texas with her husband, their three boys, their dog, Pacey, and their zombie, Steve. Colleen loves Diet Pepsi more than all of the things, and is a ninja in her spare time.

You can follow Colleen on Instagram (@colleenhoover) if you want to watch her pointless, random videos, or on Twitter (@colleenhoover), but she rarely tweets anything worth following. You can also find her on her blog at or on her very active Facebook page where she loves to give away free stuff when her husband isn’t looking.

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  • TrishJ

    We all love the bad boy stories. They give us chills and thrills. But the guy next door is just patiently waiting for us to settle down. I’m glad that you found your guy next door. I did too, but we have been married twice as long as you. I love knowing he is standing by my side through everything life throws as me. I haven’t read any of your books, but that is what is so great about this blog and all the authort who participate. I am finding so many new ones. Thank!!!

  • Sharon Forbes

    Great interview! I enjoyed finding out about your husband by reading that list, you are fortunate, but so am I! I have a wonderful husband that has been here for me this year (and before), but this year especially because I have suffered through a bad bacterial infection, and now, breast cancer.I am SO blessed to have him!

  • Patty Vasquez

    My husband, too, proves that the good ones do exist. We met in a group that worked out together. He is a natural runner and would talk and chat to me- without ever expecting a return comment, because who can talk and run?- in order to keep me going the entire length of our run. One day while running, he told me his dad was taking his mom away for the weekend, because she worked so hard during the week. I knew his family lived in very modest circumstances, but this interested me. I managed to gasp out, “What does your mom do?” He told me that his mom is a home-maker. However, his dad knew that over the years she had worked really hard cooking, cleaning, and making sure their family was always taken care of. Now he takes her away visiting so she can get a break. I knew with this kind of role-model, my running partner would make an excellent husband. And he is!

  • Sharlene Wegner

    Wow! It sounds like you married a great guy!

  • Nicole Fortuna

    Loved your essay. My husband and I celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary this past March. Good ones do exist our marriage is proof of that and it sounds like yours is too!

  • Debbie Fuller

    They really do exist!

  • Courtney Cogswell

    Reading your essay reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend of mine who was struggling with boy/men issues several years ago. I’ve been married for 8 years, together for 12 with my husband (somewhere between 1/3-1/2 my life). She was asking what made our marriage successful and I told her that it is fine to date and play with the bad boy, conceited types but when you want to find the right person you need to look for the good guy. He may have some nerdy tendencies, lack six pack abs, and have a mundane 9-5 job but he treats you like a queen, lets you know how much he loves you everyday and generally makes you feel complete. This is what I found in my early twenties and I am glad to read about someone else who found an amazing husband. I read romance novels and love all of the different types of heroes, but I wouldn’t trade my husband in for any one of them because he is perfect for me. As an update, she is now happily married with an adorable almost 2 year old daughter to a man she met playing kickball 🙂 Thanks for your amazing and very relatable post today–I am very much looking forward to reading your books!!!

  • mariannewestrich

    Good ones do exist! I tell my friends that my husband simply makes me want to be a better person. Who could ask for anything more?!?!?

  • DeereReaderGirl

    I have hope! =)

  • Maria A. Malaveci

    Yes, good ones do really exist, and I feel so extremely lucky that I have such a great hubby!

  • Sara Miller

    Love this post!!

  • Patricia Jenkins

    Love it <3 🙂

  • Ashley Christensen

    Good guys get their name for a reason. They are the good ones to have around and be with for a very long time (obviously). I think every girl, despite the draw towards the bad boy, longs for the good guy.

  • Cassie Geary

    This was a great article!

  • Gloria Landavazo

    Colleen is easily one of my favorite authors!!

  • Laura Vincent

    Great Article !! LOVE your books !

  • Sarah Sokol-Hampton

    Love all your husbands qualities he sure L❤️️Ves you! I wish my husband would let me sleep in and do Laundry!

  • Heidi Daily

    I think Colleen Hoover is a very lucky lady with an incredible husband. Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband, and he’s a great guy, but he could take some pointers from her husband. 😉 No wonder she writes good guys so well, she has a great model at home.

  • Kristy Petree

    Great post! I have an awesome husband, too (17 years), but I think Colleen’s could teach mine a thing or two. 😉 Liked making the bed, because I hate to make it but love it made! Sounds like he’s great support for such a career-driven wife!

    Bad boys are great (and probably over-written at this point), but there is nothing wrong with the boy next door. The bonus is that they don’t make as many or as awful mistakes as those bad boys do. 😉

    I like Tarryn Fisher, too, and Amy Harmon is very high up on my to-read list. 🙂

  • Jolene Bailey

    Colleen’s books touch my heart in a way that no other can.

  • Crystal Beyers

    I absolutely love your books and I adore you. I wish I had gotten to go to Chicago when you were there, would have been fantastic to meet you.

  • Samantha M

    I love Colleen. She has become one of my favorites.

  • Jerri Baxter

    I LOVE Colleen. And diet Pepsi. Still haven’t won a free pig, but I am not losing faith. lol This is awesome too by the way 🙂

  • Brandi Wristen Schattle

    Colleen Hoover is one of my automatically read authors. Anytime she has something new I want to read it just because it’s her.

  • Jen

    I love the list! I think I’ll borrow it and make a few tweaks to future tense for the kids and change the favorite band 🙂 Thanks for the great read!

  • Lena @ Addicted 2 Novels

    I can’t believe Colleen wasn’t a huge reader prior to writing SLAMMED! Crazy. I, too, am a music junkie, but I haven’t heard of The Avett Brothers. Will have to check them out! Great post! 🙂

  • CherriesInTheSnow

    Colleen Hoover is one of my favorite authors. Love the List !!!!

  • Elisha Sandell


  • Sharona

    I absolutely loved Ugly Love! This was my first book I read from Colleen…why did it take me so long?! ♡

  • Tricia Wamble

    Good guys exist! I haven’t found one yet but I am hoping! 🙂

  • Jessica Ot

    Ugly Love was AMAZING!

  • Adaffern

    Congrats on a wonderful husband.

  • Laura Murphy

    Love the list! Thanks for writing such kick-ass books – so glad you decided to “go be it”!

  • Amaya Danzy

    Love it!!

  • Ren

    Love all your books!

  • Kristin Cantrell

    I would love to win this. Thanks for the giveaway!

  • You are so lucky, In the future I hope I meet a good men like that. I want to thank you for all of the wonderful books that you have wrote and also for being so amazing(:

  • lauren salinas

    this sounds like a wonderfull book and want to dive right into reading it

  • Dawn Nagle

    Colleen you are amazing! I love the open and honest answers. Can’t wait to meet you.

  • Cristin Clewell Canter

    This post isn’t even about my husband, (although it could be) and it made me tear up. It truly is a good reminder to be thankful. Because I truly am very lucky. Thanks Colleen!!

  • jen in pa

    i love the “boy next door” romances

  • Jeni ‘Clark’ Meyers

    Loving ugly love

  • Kris

    You write amazing stories! We’re so lucky that you took your chance and ran with it!

  • LisaVH

    Wow…no laundry. Now that’s love!

  • Cindy Davis McMinn

    Thanks sooo much!!! I would love to read this book!!!!

  • ale Espitia

    Awesome thank you for the opportunity!

  • Valentina Di Matteo

    I love Colleen Hoover books!!! I’m Italian and yes, the most of
    the time we are excluded from the giveaways so thank you so much for the

  • Candice Debney

    Wow, awesome giveaway! Thanks for the chance. 🙂

  • lydia

    I love Colleen’s books..even when they break me.

  • Debbie Oxier


  • Michelle McDonald Cammack

    I am so glad Colleen braved it up and wrote slammed! Seriously I could read a menu written by Colleen Hoover and it would orobably make me cry and laugh and fall in love.

  • Renery Gatpayat

    Colleen Hoover and writing is like the miracle of all miracles for us readers. She just simply writes the best damn books there is out there. Such a brilliant author.

  • Liz N

    Her last two answers in this interview are very interesting. I love how she was inspired by music to write her first book!

  • lindsey

    Colleen is an incredibly talented writer! I am so glad she was inspired to write, and hope she never stops!

  • Alex

    OMG I’m ashamed to say that I’ve never read a Colleen Hoover book. I really want to read one though. I’m jealous of all the buzz I’ve been hearing.

  • Andrea

    That’s so sweet! Thanks for sharing!

  • margaret


  • Ella

    I love what I have read of your books, hoping to add to my collection soon

  • Katrina

    Thanks for the chance 🙂

  • Diana Wallace Reeves

    Can’t wait to read. Thanks for the chance

  • Randi

    Colleen Hoover writes such amazing books, I just want to sit and read them all in one sitting!

  • Alyssia Raine Sampson

    I would like to find my own Holder/Ridge/Miles/Will and more! Happy Anniversary Colleen!

  • Lisa Lisa

    I love Colleen’s books!!

  • Janet

    Love miles and anything that Colleen writes.

  • Ann Mettert

    She sounds like a very lucky woman.

  • Stephanie M.

    Thank you for your post today. Many of the qualities you listed also fit my husband (of eight years this Wednesday). We’ve been together for 19 years and it really has been a journey. I can’t wait to read Ugly Love. 🙂

  • Cristal Haynes

    I love Colleen Hoover and I love everything she writes.

  • Misty Trevino

    I <3 CoHo! Ugly Love has become one of my favorites! Thanks for the interview. She is funny

  • Stormi Young

    I hope to meet Colleen and a few other of my fav writers in September.

  • Reena May Liwanag

    It’s great that Slammed, one of my favorite books (well, all your books are actually all my favorites), has started your writing career. I really love reading your books! I get a roller coaster of emotions when i read your books! I hope i can get a signed copy of Ugly Love! 🙂

  • Thanks so much for joining us today at Read-A-Romance Month Colleen, and bringing a great group of readers to the party! I really appreciate you being here and sharing your lovely list and story with us. As someone who just celebrated her 20th anniversary, I can definitely agree that a good man makes a big difference in a happy life. xo

  • Marcy Shuler

    Your post was a beautiful love letter to your husband. Thanks for sharing it with us.

  • Author Amy Harmon

    There truly are good ones out there. Thanks, Colleen!

  • Ellen

    What a nice tribute to your husband and your marriage. I have a nice guy, too.
    We’ll be married 28 years in September.

  • Beth A Wodarski

    I watched the interview that you did. It was very inspiring and even though i don’t write it did encourage me to pursue what makes me happy and help others! Thank you for your gift of writing such amazing books and wonderful loving characters.

  • Jennifer Taylor

    Great post. Thank you.

  • Nicole Copeland

    Colleen Hoover is such an inspiration. Love love love her and her books!

  • Maureen Figueroa

    The best author! I would like to know what he thinks about her…

  • Karla Lambert-Langer

    Feel in love with Colleens books from the first book I read, Slammed!!

  • Eileen Aberman-Wells

    How lucky you are to have the perfect husband. I might argue that mine’s better but he doesn’t/didn’t do some of those things on your list. I was the homework mom. That’s what I get for being a secondary teacher who understood kids. He gave up his PhD to stay home with our kids during the day while I taught & worked evenings. He made us all breakfast & our lunches. When my school day started later he started dinner so it would be ready when I got home to give him the car to go off to work. We’ve been married 32 years, together for 34, and I definitely won’t trade – well at least most days.

  • Sue G.

    What a perfect sounding husband you have! Congrats on 14 yrs. We just celebrated 25 yrs married but 32 yrs total together! It gets better everyday!

  • Kristen Kocher

    I love, love, LOVE this! Made me smile and cry all at the same time…

  • Jessica Kilgore

    Absolutely love everything about Colleen!

  • Brenda E

    Excellent post. I can really relate to #’s 16 and 17! You are one fortunate lady. I started to wonder if you weren’t a little spoiled there until I realized you are a fellow(?) Texas gal. Then I understood completely. I am also very spoiled by my husband of over 30 years, and he will always by my hero as well. Loved your post, I’ll be sure to watch for you books.

  • Geraldine Pierson

    Congratulations on 14 years and your books. We celebrated 44 years on 08/08/14. We had problems like you said who hasn’t. Your husband sounds perfect. Mine does not come close to yours but he has good qualities and some bad ones also but so do I. I feel it takes both husband and wife to work together to make a marriage work.

  • Kenia

    Amazing, she leaves you spechless!

  • Beth Swaim

    Absolutely LOVE all of CoHo’s books. I’m procrastinating on reading Ugly Love. One author who can’t write fast enough.

  • Emmel

    I remember being amazed when I realized I’d been married longer than I’d been not-married. And the amazing part is that it didn’t (and still doesn’t) seem that long at all….

  • Ms. Hoover is a genuine soul. The honest way with which she presents herself to her fans astounds. There is a double meaning behind the title of this post!

  • Kelly Kelly

    I love Colleen Hoover! I’ve been married for 13 years (holy cow! Where has the time gone??)

  • Teresa Griffin

    We’ve been married 21 years. Your #7 was my favorite…my hubby does laundry too!

  • Heidi D

    Great interview! Love her books. Her husband sounds incredibly sweet. I’m a little jealous. They don’t make ’em like that where I’m from.

  • Ashley Close

    Loved it!

  • ashj3nt

    This is a wonderful interview. Colleen’s book are my favorite and she is always so funny!

  • pateldoorva

    Colleen’s Books are wonderful! Her writing is so fantabulous that I can’t stop reading any of her texts which I start reading and I go into a different world by reading her works. It is so mesmerizing! Completely beautiful experience! 😀

  • M Kuxhaus

    Your description of your husband sounds too good to be true! God blessed you with a great man!

  • Robin Driscoll

    Awesome questions, love learning more about Colleen. I’ve been married 32 years and still on my honeymoon.

  • Shermaine Dowling

    Wow, I’ve been married to who I felt was cream of the crop for 42 years, but I think you, Colleen, may have the absolute best of the best hubby!

  • Sheila M

    Thanks for promoting the good guy!

  • Angie Lanai

    Your husband seems like a great man! God bless you guys with many more years of happiness xx

  • Tatianna White

    The good ones are hard to find. I have one of them. Glad you found one who has gifted you with so many years of happiness.

    Loved this whole thing. Colleen is pure brilliance that was hidden for far too long. I’m glad that she’s shared one of her many talents with us!

  • Joseph Jones

    Sounds good.

  • bella bookaholic

    I love, love, LOVE this and COLLEEN HOOVER ! I smile and cry all at the same time.

  • Lucky lucky! I’m 25 and am yet to find one man who wants more than a one night stand, is a cheat or won’t sent me d*ck pics out of nowhere. Fun times!

  • Pamela Christine Bunag

    love colleen hoover!!!!

  • Erika Kneeland Gutermuth

    Colleen is my absolute favorite! Seeing into this side of her life was a big treat! Thanks so much!!!

  • There’s always that pull towards bad boys. We all want just a small taste but in the end, we would prefer the boy next door type.

  • Shannon Verstraete

    Collen is all epicness! She’s been so awesome with her books and giveaways and fan interaction AND she introduced us to Griffin! I am obsessed with him now lol THANK YOU for the chance, ya’ll are awesome!

  • Joan Varner

    Congratulations, Colleen, on having your HEA.

  • Jessica Cassidy

    I am looking forward to win this book. Thank you for the giveaway. I hope I get lucky 🙂

  • rebecca moe

    What a fantastic list! You obviously have plenty of source material for writing excellent book boyfriends 🙂

  • Colleen’s husband sounds amazing. Where can I find one just like him? 😀

  • Pamby50

    I found mine & married him almost 34 yrs ago. Yes ladies they are out there. Will have to add you to my list to read.

  • Irma Jurejevčič

    I love Colleen! I love her books, I love her sence of humor, I love her everything!

  • Jesenia Figueroa

    Her husband really undertands what she does, she is very lucky!

  • Andrew Holly

    He must really be in love her, and it is good she knows it is very difficult to forget everything societu says about man at home.

  • Julie Nieves

    Ugly Love is at the top of my reading list!

  • Ruth

    I have heard such great things about your writing. I am putting your books on my TBR list. Thanks for the post.

  • Margil Pondicüs

    /graby hands/ I honestly can’t wait reading this new Colleen Hoover book (as soon as I get out of the tortures of school but ashfjklasdf)

  • Emily Seelye

    Your husband sounds amazing!

  • Judy Goodnight

    Your husband is definitely a keeper!