Day 25 Jeanne Adams – Walking Through Fire Into Love

Tough, Tried, True – Romance in Real Life

People will tell you that life is tough.  They’ll make sure you know just how many trials and tribulations they-–or someone they know–have gone through.  They’ll tell you the worst horror stories, stuff that will make your hair curl.  Bad bosses, horrific husbands, awful mother-in-laws, ex-wives-from-hell, and they somehow feel the need to tell you every type of trouble a kid canTheTentacleAffaireFINAL get in to break a parent’s heart.  All of it will be daily fodder if you choose to let people tell you “how it really is.”  If you watch TV, you’ll see it in living color.

And in some ways, yes, they’re right.  Bad things do happen.  People can be totally awful.  Kids, friends, parents and spouses can spiral down into their own personal hells and do their best to take you with them.


What you do with that, what happens next, how you climb back up the spiral and LIVE, well, that’s the story, isn’t it?  That’s the reason the human race actually survives, right?  Because someone has the guts, the gumption, the sheer chutzpah to ignore the “way things are” and design a new way, a better way.

Despite everything they “know” or have lived through, they manage to find a positive, loving, fabulous way.

We romance writers put our characters through hell.  Contrary to popular belief, there’s very little fluff or starry-eyed-wonder.  We give them those horrible stories, real life stories.  BUT…we bring them through the fire and into the joy of love, companionship, friendship, caring, and happily ever after.

Is THIS real life?  There are a lot who will scoff and say, “Oh, no, those nasty, sex-filled beach-read romances aren’t real life!”deadlylittlesecrets

But they ARE.

(And I’d bet hard cold cash that the people who say that have never read a modern romance novel!)

Those stories, the happily-ever-after stories, are in the news too.  You sometimes have to look for them, but they’re there.

People fall in love at first sight and stay married for 65 or 70 years and die within minutes of one another.  People come through the worst-–fire, disaster, hate crimes, torture-–and they have the courage to live, and to love and be happy.   Children are lost, only to be found.  Drugs or accident may seemingly ruin a life, only for that life to reemerge, triumphant and brilliant and a shining example for others to follow.

Love not only exists, it rules.  Sometimes, it’s quiet.  It doesn’t make the news.

Sometimes it roars into being, in full color, and everyone knows that love saved the day-–the cop snatching a child from danger, the desperately injured Boston Marathon runner who met the love of his life in rehab, the woman who helps a man from another culture survive an attack by staring down the attackers, the brave soul who stands up and demands that love WILL win.

It’s as real as we are.

Romance readers are the believers.  The cutting edge citizens of a brave new world.

So instead of turning on the news, read a romance.  Believe.  Laugh.  Cry.  Rejoice in the happy ending.  Then go out and look for the happy endings that surround you every day.  They’re there, you just have to open your eyes and look.

So, fabulous Read-A-Romance Month readers, what have YOU seen today that made you think, “Love really does work!” or “Okay, I have hope in the human race after seeing THAT…”?  Tell me the good news!!


Oh, ya’ll, I have SO many recommendations for you! Any book by a Romance Bandit ( will be a great read.  Go to my friend Rae Latte’s blog for books that thrill (, and specifically, Barb Devlin’s AMAZING historicals starting with Enter the Brethren.  OMGosh, delicious!! Anything by Sylvia Day, but especially the fallen angel series, and her Crossfire Series, which is the hottest thing going right now.  I adore Karin Tabke’s books too – smokin’ hot law and order heroines and heroes, as well as fast-paced and fabulous story-lines.

Go! Buy! Enjoy!  Grins.

Questions for the Author:

Describe the most daring, adventurous or inspiring thing you ever did.

The most adventurous thing I ever did was go to an Anthony Robbins seminar and walk on forty feet of fire.  Doing the firewalk is an experience I’ll never forget because after it, I figured, if I could do THAT, I could do anything.

Tell us about your journey to becoming a writer. (How did you decide to get started? Did you always know or was there a specific moment when you knew?)

Well there was this firewalk…just kidding!  My father was a Director of Libraries.  My mom was an English teacher.  My sibs and I were truly all “born with a book in our hand.” Stories were such a part of our family culture, especially being from the South, that it seemed so natural to want to actually do that – tell stories.  I wrote my first book when I was eight, as a class project.  Illustrated it too.  Ha!  But it wasn’t until after that firewalk that I got the courage to go for the dream of being a writer as an adult.

Tell us about The (or A) Book That Changed Your Life. (Why?)

Every book I’ve ever read has changed my life in some way.  I’ve learned something from every book I’ve ever read. My friends get tired of my rocking trivia question games because “I read it in a historical romance, or “I read that in one of Suz Ferrell’s books,” or…you get the picture.  Some that have significantly changed my worldview or my life include Tony Robbins’s Awaken the Giant Within, Dune by Frank Herbert (which Emma Holly recommended on Day 12!), and Anne of Green Gables by L.M Montgomery.

Jeanne is generously offering 4 copies of her forthcoming book, The Tentacle Affaire, A Slip Traveler Novel, due out within the next few weeks.  One winner will also get the book, a Starbucks gift card, a Washington DC Coffee mug, and chocolates. (U.S. readers only, apologies to international friends. Entry below.)

Jeannie AdamsAlthough Jeanne Adams likes calling North Carolina home, she lives in DC, where The Tentacle Affaire is set, and often jogs on the C&O towpath with her dogs.  Her favorite holiday is Halloween.  She starts planning the annual yard decor on November 1.  Alas, in this case however, the “Adams Family” – one husband, two sons and three dogs – is all bark and no bite.

On another spooky note, Jeanne used to work in the funeral and cemetery business, and knows a thing or two about getting rid of the body….bwhahahah!  (She even teaches classes about it to other writers!)

Jeanne has written suspense novels for Kensington/Zebra Publishing since 2007.  THE TENTACLE AFFAIRE is her first urban fantasy/romance.

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  • Katy L

    I have to agree – my parents have been married for over 50 years, and they keep going. They don’t have a hearts and flowers romance, and they bicker constantly, but they stay together, and managed to raise 4 (relatively) well-adjusted children into (usually) responsible adults. There must be something there – since my youngest sibling just turned 45, I don’t think they’re staying together for the “sake of the children.”

    • Hi Katy! I’m LOL – sounds like my family. My sibs and I are (relatively) normal. Snork! My dad did bring mama flowers all the time though, because she loved them. Other than that…yeah. Grins. Thanks for stopping in!

  • Guest

    Romances remind me that love is hard and tkes work, and to appreciate all of the love I have.

    • Hi Guest!! Love can be hard work, and it takes care and attention, I totally agree!! I SO agree with appreciating all the love I have. Isn’t it wonderful??

  • Lynda Dickey

    Romances remind me that love is hard and takes work, and to appreciate all of the love that I have.

    • Hey Lynda! I guess you’re my “guest” Grins. :>

      • Lynda Dickey

        Yep! I noticed the typo after it posted and thought I deleted it. Oh well!!

  • Joan Kayse

    Woohoo! It’s Jeanne Adams!!! Bandit and awesome writer. I can’t wait for this new story! Is it like Dolphin Tale only with octupus? 😀 GRIN I know it’s not. I know it’ll be suspenseful, HOT and edge of your seat. You rock! As to what I’ve seen lately? A video of an old folks home in NZ dancing to Happy by Pharell

    • Hey Joan!! I’m LOL about the Dolphin Tale. SNORK!! And how totally FUN about the Happy dance in NZ. Love that!!

  • Debbie Oxier

    I love the way people come together after a natural disaster. All differences are put aside at that moment and they stop thinking about only themselves and start to consider others. So many heartwarming stories come out of those times. And romance can too. Thanks for reminding us!

    • Hey Debbie! Thanks for popping in! You’re so right. Those stories of love, selflessness and sacrifice are so moving. And yes, love sometimes comes from those terrible times as well. :>

  • cheryl c.

    I have friends and family who have been married for a long time. They still enjoy each other’s company. They are also surrounded by children and grandchildren who fill their lives with continuing love.

    • Hey Cheryl C! I do too. Isn’t it wonderful to be around, to see and feel that continued faith a long-time couple has in one another? Love that!!

  • Joyce Ann McLaughlin

    Hi Jeanne! I just wrote a long involved comment for on here to say hello, but it got lost on the upload somehow. So now I’ll just say Hi! and best to you on your new venture in Romance!

    • Bummer! I love long and involved comments! *pout* I hate when the blog monster eats a great post. Thanks for stopping in though, Joyce Ann!!! Hugs!!

  • Sue G.

    I see my hubby and the way he will look at me or hold my hand when I least expect it. Even after 32 yrs together he still is my one and only!

    • Awwww! LOVE it, Sue G! Isn’t that just the best? My DH and I have been together 17 years and I can’t believe it sometimes. Really? 17 years? So I can’t imagine 32. Ha! But yes, there that moment–hand holding, a bump of the hip, a laugh at an old joke—yep, that gets me alllll over again. Grins. So glad it’s that way for you too. Yay!!

      • Sue G.

        I know I met hubby when I was 17. I keep thinking there is no way it has been that long, but my youngest kid is now 17! Congrats on your 17 years too!

        • Thanks Sue!! We’ve been married for 15, so it’s so fun. Grins.

          • Jeesh! Hit send too fast…So it’s INCREDIBLY fun!!

  • Hey Jeanne, so proud of you!! Really looking forward to The Tentacle Affaire. And a huge thank you for recommending my Brethren of the Coast books. You’ve been with me from the beginning, as an inspiring and supportive critique partner, and I wish you great successive with your first Indie venture.

    • WOOT!!! Barb’s in the HOUSE!!! LOVE your Brethren series girl! It’s been brilliant from the beginning and now that it’s out in the world? Bestseller, baby!! So proud of YOU!! Thanks for the good wishes…

  • Dmacmeans

    Hi Jeanne!
    I went to a surprise 60th birthday last night. Much of the conversation related to health issues (sigh) but there was one couple in their 70s where his health is a real challenge. Dementia, balance issues, muscle and bone deterioration – but they’re still together helping each other. I have another friend whose husband is deep into Parkinson’s disease at a young age. They had to sell their house and move into a senior assisted living center so he could get help if needed – but they’re together through thick and thin. Love and loving memories truly conquer all.

    • Hey Donna! Had to LOL about the health thing. Why is it that people HAVE to tell you that stuff? Or when you have little kids, or are pregnant, people have to tell you pregnancy/kid horror stories? OMGosh, people! Keep it to yourself!! Snork!! But that bond, that steadfastness is a treasure to behold, isn’t it? Love that. Thick and thin. :>

  • And as for your post, love saw me through the line-of-duty injury that ended my law enforcement career and almost killed me. In rehab, the guy with the library cart kept leaving romance novels on my bed, as I was in physical therapy when he made his rounds. If I hadn’t had those books to escape my reality, along with my firefighter hubby’s love, I wouldn’t have survived.

    • Oh, Barb, I’m always saddened that you had to give up being a cop, but I’m TOTALLY grateful that you became–or let loose–the writer instead. Grins. And yes, Romance sees us through some tough times, doesn’t it?

  • Emmel

    My parents were married nearly 67 years, after my dad saw my mom’s picture in the newspaper and sought her out. So the “first sight” part was definitely there for my dad!

    • Oh, how COOL, Emmel!! That’s lovely. My dad said he saw this pretty blonde woman sitting down front in church. She was new to town. He waited outside church and welcomed her, and walked her home. Grins. That was it. Done. He was totally smitten. Grins. But a newspaper picture? That’s totally cool!!

  • mariannewestrich

    Yes, true romance exists around every corner and affects everyone differently. Having been divorced, my true romance is the fact that I get to wake up every day with the good man I have now and face the world with him! Never give up on romance!

    • Hey Marianne! I had that too – not so good first marriage, divorce – but omgosh! What a difference the second time around makes, right? I have the BEST life, and the most darling hubby. I’m with you: Never give up on romance!!

  • Quinn Fforde

    Inspiring post! I am sick today, and my husband is taking care of me so kindly. That won’t make the news, but I will always remember it.

    • Hey Quinn! Oh, I hope you feel better!! How darling that hubby is there and making sure you’re okay. As you say, it won’t make the news, but it’s that kind of little thing that keeps you smiling, and bouncing, and looking forward to waking up next to that man for the next 40 years. :>

      BTW, I hope you have something good to read. My latest book won’t be out for another week or so, but my Aug 25th RARM pals have some GREAT books for you! Ck out Megan Hart and Nina Lane!! (And of course, Barb Devlin, and Sylvia Day, and Karin Tabke…and all the Romance Bandits…Grins.)

  • Tawny Weber

    Hey Jeanne! what a great post 🙂 I love books above all other forms of entertainment and will always climb into one if given a choice.

    Hmm, what have I seen today that affirmed my faith in love? Probably the outreach in California after the earthquake. People are good and its always affirming to see them show just how good.

    • Hey Tawny! Oh, isn’t it great how people come together to help one another? Love that. And like you, I’ll climb in to a book any time, anywhere, and get away. Grins.

  • Debbie Fuller

    I love your post and your book recommendations! What have I seen today that reaffirmed my faith in love?……my high school boyfriend, lover and husband of 36 yrs. just reaffirmed this morning that love can last and be passionate (at 60) even when you are total opposites, and have survived kids, loss, very hard times, and his dislike of me reading, other than for self-improvement, which I reply, “This book is improving my self-esteem, and giving me insight into the male mind, and improving my sex drive.”

    • Debbie! What a great, great comeback! Love it!! And how wonderful that y’all have been together that long. Go you!!

  • Christina Brooke

    Jeanne, I had a tear in my eye after that rousing post! Good on you, what a brilliant way of looking at it. I think we, as humans, need stories to show us that we can make that final push and lift ourselves out of the troubles that surround us. I’m so impressed by the walk of fire. Don’t know if I’d ever have the guts to do that! Can’t wait for The Tentacle Affair. You know how much I love your books.

    • Hey Christina! Awww, thank you. The firewalk was pretty cool. Grins. And thanks for your kind words!!

  • Martha B

    What a great post. Yes, romance is all around if we look for it and celebrate love. The recent article in the Boston Globe about a couple who first met 62 years ago (and then married) was terrific. Some romance authors even posted the link to the story on Facebook. Here’s the link

    • Oh! That’s really darling!! How fabulous. Thanks Martha B!

  • Sheila M

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. We need to recognize and appreciate love and romance in real life.

    • Hey Sheila M! Thanks for popping in. And yes, (obviously) I think we have to appreciate it. Grins.

  • Erica H

    A very good post. Thanks for reminding us of every day romances in real life.

    • Hey Erica H! Most welcome. Grins. Thanks for your kind words!

  • Deb Hinshaw

    Loved your post, Jeanne! Go out and look for happy endings….love that!

    Hehe, you know a thing or two about getting rid of a body…you crack me up, as usual. Thanks for posting today!

    • Hey Deb!! Grins. Yes, I DO know about getting rid of the….evidence….bwahahahah!

  • Cindy A

    I never really thought of Dune as a romance, but I see that it is. Most of syfy is romance – think about Stranger in a Strange Land.

    • Hi Cindy A! I hadn’t thought about Stranger for a long time, but yes, it is as well. :> Maybe not as overtly as those books with Romance on the spine, but still… And Dune is alllllll about relationships – good and bad – from Jessica and Duke Leto Atreides to Mua’dib and Channi and down the line. :>

  • donnas

    Great post. I think thats a major problem today especially with the news. People don’t take the time to look around and see the good and the happy

  • Eileen Aberman-Wells

    Loved your post. I am a believer in love!! I saw it today when my daughter drove us to lunch & on her dashboard was a sweet message on a post-it-note from her husband of 2 years.Look & you will find.

  • M Kuxhaus

    Your essay was so uplifting and encouraging! My nephews’ grins are “good news” to me, always.

  • Joan Varner

    My mom and dad were married for over 50 years, so I know that love really works.

  • Glenda

    TV New is completely depressing. Hope for the world indicator that I saw today? School is starting in my area and I ran into a couple who both took the day off work to spend with their kids on the last day of ‘summer freedom’. 🙂

  • Pamby50

    Yesterday my husband had to have a procedure done. As you sit in the waiting room at the VA, you see it all. The older veterans with their spouses. They look so cute. Then the young couple with 2 of the cutest girls and you hope all goes well. Next month will be 34 yrs for me.

  • Stephanie M.

    Thank you for your post. I know many people with anniversaries in August, including mine. It makes me happy to see so many people still married through all the good times and bad. Love really does work!

  • Yaritza Santana

    Wow forty feet of fire….ouch. Very impressive, definitely believe we all could do what we believe in accomplishing. Your books look awesome

  • Michelle Fidler

    I love mysteries, including Halloween ones. I don’t know too much about getting rid of bodies, but that does remind me of an episode of The Blacklist where Red dissolved a body with chemicals.

  • Erin F

    WOW!!! I would never be brave enough to do that! Kudos to you! Thanks for sharing!

  • Laurie W G

    One of my HS best friends lost her husband to cancer when he was 38. She had two young girls, 5 & 7. Two years ago she met Kent via an on-line dating site. She is now engaged to be married. A surprise on her recent 60th birthday in July. I am so happy that she found her soul mate.

  • Ruth

    I’ve learned things from the books I read as well. Thanks for your post.

  • Meredith Richeson Hillenbrand

    I love your take on romance! I believe in real life “love at first sight”, “soulmates,” and happy endings that can come out of tragedies. I love all kinds of romance novels and books period. I even read and loved the entire Ann of Green Gables series and Dune series as well. Thanks for participating in Celebrate Romance!

  • rebecca moe

    My nephew started kindergarten last week, and my brother, sister-in-law, and niece (who can’t go to pre-k until next year, sadly) all went to drop him off. The smiles they posted on Facebook in the pics of everyone dropping him off are my hope for the future 🙂

    Thanks for posting!