Day 30 Lisa Kleypas – Embracing Our Love of Love

Go On and Love It If You Like It

It is a truth universally acknowledged that everyone loves romance, but hardly anyone wants to admit it.  As a result, romance is now most often secretssummerserved as a discreet side dish for other, more respected fare, such as dystopian YA, suspense, or literary fiction.  If you try reading a full-out romance novel in public without hiding the cover, some people are going to be a little embarrassed for you. Our love of romance fiction doesn’t always convince others of our intellectual depth and sophistication.

It should, though.

There is nothing so powerful—or important—as the enduring emotional connection between two people in love.  If romance isn’t worth reading and celebrating, what is? Romance novels still feature the kind of banter and sexiness and sincerity that Hollywood has forgotten how to do.  No one has to die of random cancer at the end: set down that tissue box. These books are calorie-free, sexy, and informative–no wonder they’re habit-forming. And not only are they a perfect way to pass the time, they also make your real-life relationships better.  So don’t hold back, fearless reader. As the Redbone lyric says, “Go on and love it if you like it.”

Here are a few valuable things I’ve learned from romance novels, accompanied by a few of my favorite quotes:

1. “I married a damned cereal killer.”  –Susan Elizabeth Phillips, Nobody’s Baby But Mine

Romance novels remind us to keep our sense of humor. I have no idea why my husband Greg always sets his dirty cereal bowl on the counter instead of remembering to put it in the dishwasher, despite my frequent reminders. I can only conclude that he believes we live with a magical dish fairy. Greg, for his part, questions why I always want half of his dessert, or why different areas of my skin need different moisturizers. But this is the stuff that couples need to laugh about. Laughter relieves stress, helps to smooth over differences, and draws us closer together.

2. “I deserve passion,” she said. “I deserve to be loved—in every way. I deserve a man who’ll give his whole heart, not the part he isn’t using at the devil kleypasmoment.”  –Loretta Chase, Silk Is For Seduction

“You’re the missing piece of me,” Quin said. “You make me feel.”  –Eloisa James, The Duke Is Mine.

If you feel it, say it. We all deserve to be loved sincerely and passionately. Some people are reluctant to say “I love you” because they don’t want to wear it out, as if the phrase were a cheap pair of acrylic socks. But “I love you” is a gift of reassurance and affection that takes only 0.7 seconds to say. In that same amount of time, a hummingbird has to flap his wings thirty-five times, which requires a heck of a lot more effort. The point is, couples in romance novels don’t take each other for granted, and neither should we. Express your love generously and often.

3. “She had no idea how long they kissed—and kissed—but she didn’t think about stopping until they ran out of air.”–Jill Shalvis, Once In A Lifetime

Make time for intimacy. Sometimes you may be too tired for a bedroom romp with your significant other, or you don’t feel all that sexy after eating that clandestine bag of potato chips . . . but do it anyway. You’ll be glad you did.  Plus, the more romance novels you read, the easier it is to get into the spirit of things. There are places in our brains where the lines and scenes from our favorite books tend to linger and sparkle . . . they make us smile . . . and they make sex more fun. It’s a great way to celebrate, if you ask me.


My recommendations are the authors and books quoted above . . . you can’t go wrong with any of these goddesses of romance.

Questions for the Author:

Describe the most daring, adventurous or inspiring thing you ever did.

About eight years ago, Greg and I and our two children moved from Texas to Washington State. We had previously visited the Pacific Northwest for a couple of brief trips, and we loved the coffee culture, the mountains and trees,  and the friendly easygoing people. Everything was new and exciting. What Greg and I discovered was that when you move to an entirely different place, you discover abilities and interests you didn’t know you had, and you even change some of the ways you think about things. We love living here, and we’re so glad we took a chance on it.

Tell us about your journey to becoming a writer.

I was a voracious reader as a child, and I liked writing stories, but it wasn’t until I was sixteen that I knew I was meant to be a writer. I was a sophomore in high school, and I was attending a three-week summer camp. I had bought a pound of loose stationery paper, colored bright yellow, so I could write letters to family and friends. But during the daily two-hour break in the afternoons, I started writing a novel, and almost immediately there was a deep-down click, like part of my soul had just settled into place. I finished the novel, and wrote another book every summer until I finally sold one just before I graduated from college.

Tell us about the book that changed your life.

So many books have influenced my life, but especially “A Return To Love” by Marianne Williamson. There is so much wisdom, light and joy in that book.  This is the quote that changed me profoundly the instant that I read it:  “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.”

Lisa is generously giving away a set of the Wallflower historical romance quartet, and a copy of the novella “A Wallflower Christmas” to one U.S. reader (apologies to international friends). Entry below.

kleypasLisa Kleypas is a New York Times bestselling author of both historical and contemporary romance. Her thirty-eight novels and four novellas have been published in twenty-four languages and are bestsellers around the world. After graduating from Wellesley College with a political science degree, Lisa sold her first book and made a full-time career of writing the kinds of romances she has always loved to read.  Lisa is living her own happily-ever-after in Washington State with her husband Greg and their two children.



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