Amy Jo Cousins – The Joy of Romance for Everyone

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The Joy of Loving in the Open

The first Chicago Pride parade I attended was a transformative experience for me. It waslevel-hands vertical 300p also a giant party that offered the opportunity to drink beer openly on the street with a hundred thousand of your closest friends, so an inordinate amount of my day was spent waiting in line for a Porta Potty. (These days the parade tops at over one million attendees, which just thrills me.)

Bathroom issues aside, the biggest impact the Pride parade had on me was experiencing what if felt like to be in the middle of a massive crowd of people, none of whom were afraid or hiding who they loved. Who they hoped to love. Who they wanted to love for the night, even. Dancing on floats, making out on the sidewalks, flirting over tallboys of Miller Lite (It was the nineties. Forgive us.), we cheered and clapped and boogied and got sunburned and the entire day was filled with a joy that was often hard to find the other 364 days of the year.

(And don’t even get me started about the PFLAG contingent—at the time, the Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. To this day, when the PFLAG people walkers pass, I get choked up. Back in the early nineties? I was a sobbing, snotty mess, seeing those moms and dads and brothers and sisters and friends walking together, when I knew so many people who’d been rejected by their families and friends after coming out.)

I get asked pretty frequently why I write LGBTQ romance. I started reading books about LGBTQ characters in junior high, I think, with my deep dive into science fiction and fantasy. But they showed up in my mysteries, my literary fiction, and my historical reads too. And in the vast majority of those books, the characters met tragic fates, or were the villains, or had to suffer through terrible trauma before being allowed some small sort of peace at the end of the book. E.M. Forster’s Maurice, a book that was way ahead of its time, was almost the only exception I recall.

By the time I was in college, my circle included plenty of friends who were bi or gay, and FullExposure-200x300we were all aware of the safety our women’s college campus provided. Two women walking hand in hand or arm in arm on our campus were almost entirely safe, but reports of women getting attacked on the street in the nearby towns were pretty much constant. Back home in Chicago, the Boystown neighborhood was a haven, a fact we were reminded of frequently whenever we left it. I can’t count the number of times cab drivers warned me that my destination was in “that disgusting gay neighborhood”. Safety and comfort were found in each other’s apartments and in certain bars and restaurants. The rest of the world was full of danger and hiding.

Today, the world is certainly different. At my last job, I suggested changing our health insurance policy to include domestic partners (before gay marriage was legal in Illinois) and my CEO and CFO didn’t hesitate before agreeing. I live in a neighborhood that is mostly straight, but I see queer couples on the street holding hands all the time, and at a party on our building’s rooftop deck last summer, a young man asked me what my preferred gender pronouns were. But it’s easy to forget, when we celebrate the gay West Point grads who got married at their alma mater, that the next time we heard about that couple was when they fought off a gaybasher in a convenience store earlier this month. Even today, being able to live your love in the open isn’t always safe for LGBTQ couples.

Writing LGBTQ romance is both a joy and a privilege. The possibility of the happy ending is something straight people often take for granted. For a long, long time, finding yourself in a romance novel was a rare thing for LGBTQ people. Today, nothing makes me happier than writing those happy endings, all kinds of characters, over and over again, with every last moment of that happy ending right out in the open.

Amy Jo recommends:

Keira Andrews ( keiraandrews.com ) blew onto my radar last year with her Amish trilogy of m/m romance, but her recent release, Kick at the Darkness, is one of my favorite reads of 2015. It’s a rollercoaster ride of zombies and werewolves and the cross-country journey of a student and the TA he loathes but needs in order to survive. Absolutely terrific fun!

E.E. Ottoman  ( acosmistmachine.com ) writes gorgeous SFF trans and queer romance. A Matter of Disagreement features a cranky scholar and a wealthy patron and lots of delightfully argumentative conversation.

Geonn Cannon ( geonncannon.com ) writes f/f romance and mysteries and adventure stories. I most recently read Cinder & the Smoke, which is a historical novel about a thief and the Pinkerton agent determined to hunt her down (not a romance!), but most of my friends started with The Rise and Fall of Radiation Canary.

Harper Fox ( harperfox.net )writes lyrical, atmospheric m/m romances often set in wild and windy places in England. The Tyack & Frayne mystery series is fantastic, but her book Scrap Metal is one of my favorite books of the genre.


Questions for the Author:

Tell us about a moment in your life when you experienced sheer joy. 

I was never an athlete. My whole life, I was the sweet, smart, shy girl who read books nonstop. When I was 39, I trained for and ran my first of several marathons with my super kickass baby sister. Standing in a crowd of 40,000 runners with my sister at my side, singing U2’s “Beautiful Day” at the top of our lungs, on the verge of pushing myself harder than I ever had in my entire life, was a moment of pure joy for me. To be surpassed only by the feeling of crossing the finish line and realizing that I could stop running!

Tell us about a place that brings you joy, or is attached to a memory of joy.

Long ago, I went to France for two weeks with one of my best friends from college. She was pickpocketed on the train into Paris from the airport, so our first hours on French soil were spent dealing with the police and her embassy and her credit card companies. When we made it to the hotel we’d selected out of a guidebook, we realized we were not in the best of neighborhoods when we spotted the “Sex Shop” sign on the building across the street. (That the sign was in English was just icing on the cake. We could have been in the States!) We found the nearest crappy restaurant and collapsed at a sidewalk patio table, hoping wine would soothe our nerves. A few minutes after we poured our first of many glasses of Côtes du Rhône, a van drove by on the street and a guy leaned out the window, staring at us and starting to catcall. I braced myself for yet another Parisian disappointment. The guy shouted, “C’est l’été, il fait beau, et les femmes sont jolies!” It’s summer, the weather is beautiful, and the women are pretty! My friend and I both broke out into huge grins and relaxed. That was the moment we knew our trip was going to be fabulous. And indeed it was!

Tell us about a sound that brings you joy.

Ella Fitzgerald’s voice brings me joy. I wore out my cassette tape of her recording of the Cole Porter songbook. Twice! Thank goodness for CDs and MP3s. She also sang scat like nobody’s business. Not long before she died, I got to see her in concert at Ravinia in Chicago. When you go to Ravinia, almost no one buys seats near the stage. Instead you sit on the massive lawn among tall trees and picnic through the twilight. Many, many people do it up with tablecloths and candelabra and wine in crystal glasses. My best friend and I had bottles of Pepsi and bags of Doritos. We were totally classy! But even without the candelabra, listening to Ella Fitzgerald sing was absolutely magical.

What recent book have you read that brought you joy. (Or a book you read in your life that brought you so much joy you’ve never forgotten it.) Why?

KK Hendin’s This Much Space is my favorite recent read that brought me pure happiness. Olivia, the college-age heroine, is a fat girl who is confident, quick-witted, sex-loving, and a fabulous fashion designer to boot. She’s a total badass, and although the book gets into some seriously heavy issues with the hero, Olivia carried me through with her pure awesomeness.

And for fun, the joy of choice ~

Pick your Chris! Chris Hemsworth, Chris Pine, Chris Pratt, Chris Rock, Chris Evans or Christopher Plummer (circ. 1964 aka Capt. Von Trapp?) – trying for a little diversity! ;o)

Christopher Meloni, man. No question. The more hair that guy loses, the sexier he gets. He’s the main reason I kept watching Law & Order: SVU for all those years! (Honestly, the only reason I’m not saying Chris Pratt here is because I’m trying to be original. Seriously, who can resist a guy who can’t keep himself from making pew pew laser gun noises while filming a $200 million movie?)

Amy Jo is generously giving away any e-book of hers to one international reader and two U.S. readers.

author photoAmy Jo Cousins writes contemporary romance and erotica about smart people finding their own best kind of smexy. She lives in Chicago with her son, where she tweets too much, sometimes runs really far, and waits for the Cubs to win the World Series.

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  • mariannewestrich

    I love the Abigail Roux Cut and Run series!

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      That’s on my TBR! I know it’s hugely popular. 🙂

  • Patty Vasquez

    I am forever trying to get people to read Harper Fox’s books! My favorite of hers is Brothers of the Wild North Sea. I’ve recently started to read KJ Charles work. Wow. Her writing is powerful, as well.

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      Brothers of the Wild North Sea was absolutely amazing. I can’t imagine the amount of work it takes to write a historical piece that mixes two such widely different cultures. Fascinating. And yeah, KJ is an autobuy author for me. 🙂

  • Sue G.

    Nice write up. Our youngest daughter has a friend who is gay so she is a big supporter of gay rights. I’m glad that they culture is starting to change and hope that before I die it will be something widely accepted.

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      That’s great. Expanding circles of families and friends who are open and supportive are the way it happens. 🙂

  • Sheila M

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think Ella Fitzgerald is amazing, too.

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      Thank you! As soon as I answered that question, I went on a days long Ella binge. She’s amazing!

  • Christyna

    Great story! Please keep writing your stories. I am sure there are many a LBGTQ person out there that needs to read happy ending stories like yours.

  • cheryl c.

    I love Paris. We are headed there again next year.

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      I haven’t been in forever, but I’m hoping to bring my kid there someday. It truly was a magical city. 🙂

  • Jennifer C

    I loved reading your essay. Everyone should have books they can relate to, books with happy endings, books they enjoy – every single one of us. 🙂

    • Jennifer C

      p.s. Just saw you went to Edinboro…I am from NC and have lived all over, but I completed my internship in Erie and worked some in Ft. Leboeuf. Everyone thought my accent was from Edinboro! 🙂 I absolutely love that corner of the world.

  • Melissa Cowling Terry

    I enjoyed reading your essay!

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      Thank you! 🙂

  • Thanks for your words and for the giveaway!

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      Thank you too! 🙂

  • Debbie Fuller

    Thank you for sharing and posting on this subject.

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      Thank you also! 🙂

  • Pamby50

    You remember Ella but I remember going to Ravina to see Etta James. She was amazing. We also took the kids when they were younger. It was a fun night under the stars. It seems you and Julie James should get together with the Cubs. They have a great team this year. This Sox fan wishes you well.

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      Thank you! We’re just hoping the Cubs can duplicate the White Sox’s championships. 😉 And seeing Etta James would be AMAZING. I adore her. Her Billie Holiday collection, Mystery Lady, is simply stunning.

  • marypreston

    A lovely post thank you. A celebration to love – all love.

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      Thank you. 🙂

  • kirsten west

    Congratulations on running the marathon! Lovely interview.

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      Thank you! Running marathons has definitely been a life-changing experience for me. Rewrote how I saw myself. 🙂

  • Mary McCoy

    Great essay, and my daughter and I enjoyed meeting you at the Schaumburg library event. BTW, the FB link in your rafflecopter is to some AJ Cousins who lives in Ohio

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      Oh, dear me. Thank you for letting me know! I’ll ask Bobbi how we can fix that. 🙂 And thank you so much for coming to the signing! It’s was lovely to meet you both. That whole afternoon was just terrific.

  • Karin

    Ella singing the Cole Porter songbook is my favorite too. I’ve got it on a double LP!

    • Amy Jo Cousins

      I love that collection to pieces. So gorgeous!

  • Eileen Aberman-Wells

    Thank you for your wonderful post. Thank you for celebrating diversity.

  • Kai W.

    Great insight in your post.