Beth Vogt – The Changing Face of Love

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The Joy of Romance Through the Ages9781476789781

My understanding of romance has changed through the years. Not that I’m saying I know everything about romance. Yes, I write inspirational contemporary romance novels, but I’d classify myself as a life-long learner when it comes to love.

When I was 10 years old …

… romance was found in fairy tales, where wishes came true, thanks to the magical kindness of a fairy godmother and the just-in-the-nick-of-time arrival of Prince Charming. Good always conquered evil, which was usually found in the form of an evil stepmother or a dragon or a troll. Of course, multiple readings of Little little womenWomen, my favorite childhood book, taught me that love doesn’t always go according to plan. Jo marrying Professor Bhaer? Laurie marrying Amy? What was author Louisa May Alcott thinking, criss-crossing the romantic heroes and heroines that way? 

When I was 20 years old …

… romance had transitioned through the teen years, accompanied by a soundtrack of FullSizeRender-5love songs on the radio and heartfelt, angst-ridden journal entries. In real life and in fiction, love lost it’s untarnished glow. I’d delved into romance novels on my aunt’s bookshelves – with never a “what are you reading?” from my parents. Fictional characters acted in ways I’d never imagined – and dating relationships, such as they were, broke my too-trusting heart. I watched friends break up, get back together – a sort of unrehearsed dance where no one seemed to know the steps … and I realized a perfect romance was an illusion. But I still believed in falling in love and happily ever after. (That’s me at sixteen – and let’s not talk about the hair color. It was my mom’s idea.)

When I was 30 years old …

… romance happened within the context of marriage – if there was time for a Hallmark FullSizeRender-6card and flowers moment. I’d met and fallen in love with the man who became my husband – but only after surviving a disastrous two-year relationship that left me with no desire to date anyone. Ever, ever again. Our joy-filled, idealistic “I do’s” were quickly replaced by parenthood – three children by the time I was thirty – and a husband intent on pursuing a medical career. Where’s the time for romance when you’re both exhausted? (He did send me some Hallmark cards, though.)

When I was 40 years old …CantBuyMeLove_5bLRG

… romance became intentional because that’s what it takes to make a marriage work – to make a marriage last. There’s more to happily ever after than the fairy tales tell us – there’s real life. The daily struggles of parenting … or infertility. Of juggling a two-career relationship … or trying to figure out how to survive when you’re struggling paycheck to paycheck. Sickness strikes you or your spouse … or your child … and life becomes all about visits to the doctor, and too-long stays in the hospital, and waiting for the next lab test. And then there’s the day you wake up and realize you’re living the movie about the married couple who doesn’t know each other any more – and you have to decide to fight for your own “and they lived happily ever after” – or not. You’re no longer looking for joy – you’re looking for hope.

When I was 50 years old …

… romance was a sweet blend of memories and dreams come true. Of hard-fought beth & husbandvictories and forgiveness both accepted and received. Watching my children fall in love and embrace their own love stories … and watching friends wait for Mr. Right or Mrs. Right to show up, promising them that life is good when romance is a waiting season. Love is a deeper, abiding joy – a return to what was promised, even as it’s something new altogether.

Beth Recommends:

Melissa Tagg – She is with Bethany House, writes contemporary romance with a strong comedic thread, and is so talented. We met before we were published, and have cheered one another on since then.

Questions for the Author:

Tell us about a moment in your life when you experienced sheer joy. 

My son, Josh, is also a novelist and he released not one but two debut fantasy novels this josh vogtpast May. It’s wonderful that my son and I can connect in the writing world – deadlines, editors, plot struggles, even the “hey, would you read this?” moments. Because he lives just up the road from us in Denver, I’ve been able to watch the entire process up close, from his signing the contract to submitting the manuscript – everything. But the moment of greatest joy came when I walked into a book signing and there was my son, sitting at a table, copies of his book piled on the table in front of him. It’s one of the best moments in a mom’s life – to see her child living their dream. Laughter. Tears. Sheer Joy.

Tell us about a place that brings you joy, or is attached to a memory of joy.

I live in Colorado, and I love the chance to escape to the mountains. But … given the beth beachchance to walk along the beach gives me such a sense of quiet joy. I sense God there like no other place. I prefer early morning walks or evening walks when the sun is setting over the water. The quiet whisper of the waves … the touch of the breeze against my face … letting the water wash over my bare feet … It’s peaceful. And I can connect with that quiet place in my heart where gratitude and yes, joy, wells up.

Tell us about a sound that brings you joy.

My favorite sound is laughter. And the best kind of laughter is when my house is filled to Beth & grandbabyoverflowing with family and friends. People are in the kitchen – somebody’s tossing together a salad or prepping the dessert. The guys are in and out, manning the grill. My two GRANDgirls are needing attention – to be held or to be read a book. Someone’s talking with my 96-year-old-mother-in-law. And in the dining room, there’s an impromptu card game or board game. And woven through it all? Laughter – joy out loud.

What recent book have you read that brought you joy. (Or a book you read in your life that brought you so much joy you’ve never forgotten it.) Why?

I’ve read all of Rachel Hauck’s books in her Royal Series. They’re a beautiful blend of beth & rachelcontemporary romance, royalty, and faith. I’ve always loved following the British royalty – Diana and Charles, William and Kate – and Rachel created believable characters, want-to-read-it-again romances – and her heart of joy came through all of the novels.

And for fun, the joy of choice ~

Pick your Chris! Chris Hemsworth, Chris Pine, Chris Pratt, Chris Rock, Chris Evans or Christopher Plummer (circ. 1964 aka Capt. Von Trapp?) – trying for a little diversity! ;o)

I just read this list out loud and my 14-year-old daughter said, “Chris Evans!” She’s a diehard Captain American fan. I have to admit, he’s a favorite Avenger for me too. He certainly knows how to wield that red, white, and blue shield, doesn’t he? He’s all-American and naïve in a cute way. And Chris Evans and Chris Pratt had a great SuperBowl bet last season that benefitted two children’s hospitals. I admired how they honored that bet with a sense of humor and a willingness to bring joy to sick children.

Beth is generously giving away  2 copies of her e-novella, Can’t Buy Me Love – one domestic, one international. 

Also one lucky reader  will win a  copy of Crazy Little Thing Called Love, the first novel in her Destination wedding series and another one will win a copy of Somebody Like You, her recent RITA-nominated novel. 

beth-vogt laughing pro photo hi resBeth K. Vogt believes God’s best often waits behind the doors marked “Never.” A 2015 RITA® Finalist and a 2015 and 2014 Carol Award finalist, Beth is a contemporary romance novelist with Howard Books. Her 2014 novel, Somebody Like You, was one of Publisher’s Weekly’s Best Books of 2014.

In 2015 she introduced her destination wedding series with both an e-novella, Can’t Buy Me Love (May) and a novel, Crazy Little Thing Called Love (June).

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  • Katy Lee

    I could follow along with your timeline perfectly. All so true! Thank you for a lovely post.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I’m so glad you could relate, Katy Lee. It’s so interesting how reading and romance is woven through my life.

  • Melisa Safchinsky

    Very interesting take on joy over the years!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks, Melisa. I’m a life-long lover of romance — and I love being a part of Read-A-Romance month!

  • Marissa Yip-Young

    The joy of reading romance is timeless.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Agreed, Marissa. And I love how it changes through the years.

  • Lynn Brooks

    I find my peace at the beach too!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Lynn, there is nothing better than a walk along the beach to calm my spirit.

  • Melissa Cowling Terry

    It is so true that love is different at each stage of life.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I’ve learned to treasure the beauty of love as it is at each stage of life. There’s joy to be found in our 20s, our 30s, our 40s … Love has no expiration date.

  • Amy Livesay Hart

    I agree, the beach is one of the best places. I love the beach, but don’t see it often. Early morning walks are peaceful and a good time to talk to God.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      During my walks along the beach I often find myself talking to God. Yes, sometimes out loud … the whispers of my heart just are more easily expressed then.

  • Dorothy Salvagin

    Amazing how the accomplishments of our kids just thrill us to pieces.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Dorothy: Absolutely! “Thrill us to pieces.” Best description ever!

  • mariannewestrich

    The beach is wonderful. I live in Virginia Beach and love it here!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Well, now I have to confess I am envious of you living right at the beach. I treasure my trips to the beach.

  • Karen Mikusak

    Thanks for the giveaway. My fingers are crossed!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      :O) Good luck!

  • Delores Topliff

    I love the added bio info. Thanks so much.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks, Dee. I confess to having over 36 bios — love adding to them and tweaking them.

  • Christyna

    What a lovely journey through joy and romance. Thanks for sharing!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I love being part of RARM — and I’m having so much fun reading everyone else’s blog posts.

  • alisha woods

    enjoy Beth’s books

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thank you for those encouraging words, Alisha!

  • Beautiful and honest. Thanks for your thoughts!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I’ve come to treasure honesty more and more through the years.

  • Cindy A

    Yep, that is what it is down through the years.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I’ve come to appreciate romance more and more through the years — because romance has more depth to it.

  • Molly

    Beautiful and very honest and inspiring. Thanks

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks, Molly. I’ve been inspired as I’ve watched real-life romances. I’ve found that the best romance novels have truth woven into them.

  • You nailed it with the sound of laughter, and the picture accompanying that paragraph is perfect–there’s nothing quite as infectious as the sound of a child letting loose with a belly laugh. 🙂

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I used to have a little clay jay labeled “The laughter of children.” The jar got broken (not important how) — but the idea of saving up that sound because it is so precious … yes, that’s the truth.

      • Beth K. Vogt

        A clar “jar” — sigh. 🙂

  • BookLady

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on a lifetime of romance.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I’m looking forward to a few more decades of romance … added perspective … :o)

  • Diane Blaser

    I’ve been in love with love for a very long time and the laughter of a child is the most joyous experience; I hope to listen to my grandchildren giggling…some day!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I’ve been in love with love for a long time too — and oh, how my perspective has changed (thank God!).

  • Jennifer C

    Beth, I loved reading about ideas of romance through the ages. All very true. Also loved reading about your son also being a writer and the joy you are finding through experiencing that with him. Beautiful!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I’ve got a 14-year-old daughter who dreams of being a writer too. She attends a local writers group with me. I love seeing teens learnnig the craft, especially when one of those teens is my daughter.

  • It is great that you and your son have writing, and all that goes along with it, in common. How cool is that! I enjoyed reading what you wrote today, about love being different in your 20’s, 30’s and so on. It’s very true the way it changes over the years, and grows (sometimes not). Romance is my favorite genre, and I love the community of readers and writers. Thanks.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Angela: I was always a romance reader — historical, contemporary, a bit of supsense … Don’t think that’s going to change.

  • Linda Henderson

    Even though I have two failed marriages behind me I still firmly believe in love at any age.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I’ve learned that despite romantic failure — broken hearts, broken engagement, broken dreams — my heart does choose to love again. To trust again.

  • kirsten west

    Enjoyed how you broke up romance into important stages in a persons life. Never thought about romance in that way!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks, Kirsten. This was a first for me too. I’m so thankful Bobbi invited me to be part of Read-A-Romance month.

  • Marcy Shuler

    I really enjoyed reading about your decades of romance!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks, Marcy! Looking forward to what I will discover about romance in the decades to come!

  • Dawn Anderson

    Finally, someone said Chris Evans! He is, by far, my favorite Chris (and that includes my brother) 😉

    • Beth K. Vogt

      :O) Yay for Chris Evans!

  • Aleen D

    What a sweet blog post 🙂

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Aleen: Thanks for commenting!

  • Christi Caldwell

    I absolutely love your look at love through the stages of life. You are so, so right!!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Hi, again, Christi! So glad you dropped by today! :O)

  • Michele Hayes

    Beautiful post, thanks for the chance to win.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks, Michele, I’ve loved being part of Read-A-Romance month, and I’ve appreciated everyone joining the conversation!

  • Karen

    I think it’s great that you and your son are both writers. Can I ask what title’s Josh has written? I myself enjoy a good fantasy read. I’d like to give your son’s books a try if I can find them.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      His urban fantasy is Enter the Janitor, with the next release this fall: The Maids of Wrath. His other fantasy is Forge of Ashes. And he’s often at the Cons — just back from Indianapolis, was at Houston, Denver … I can’t keep track of them all. This is his website:

  • Flora Segura-Buchler

    Loved your love by the decades post, Michelle. You are so wise to know that love can happen at anytime in a persons life and that is is just important when we are young aas well as we age.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I truly believe that love has no expiration date! My novel, Catch a Falling Star, had a 36-year-old heroine, and a 38-year-old hero. I had to laugh when a reviewer felt they were too old. Ugh. So, so wrong!

  • rachelhauck

    Great post, Beth! Loved seeing you in all your romance stages. 🙂 #lovewell

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thank you, Rachel. And yes, it’s all about choosing to #lovewell!

  • Beautiful family memories! Thank you for the international part of the giveaway and your generosity!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      It’s fun to include the international readers too — and that’s what e-books are for, yes? ;o)

  • Quinn Fforde

    I very much agree with your ideas about how romance changes as we age.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks , Quinn!

  • Texas Book Lover

    Having been with my husband since we were 16 I completely agree!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Wow, TBL! That’s quite an accomplishment! Brava!

  • flchen1

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on love and joy, Beth! And we all have the capacity to love deeply, no matter our age!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      I agree! There’s no expiration date on romance or love!

  • Sheila M

    What an interesting and thoughtful view of how love and romance changes through our lives

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks, Sheila! I hope to keep adding to the perspective as time goes on.

  • Eileen Aberman-Wells

    After 33 years of marriage, I still believe in love and happy ever after. I love how your son has followed in your footsteps is also a published author. You are a new to me author and I will be investigating your books. Thank you for sharing in this post.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks for stopping by, Eileen. It is a special joy to share writing with my son — and my teen daughter and I talk writing too. She is co-writing with her bestie. Love to sit in the family room with her and talk story.

  • Kai W.

    I love your interview especially with the stages of life.

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Thanks, Kai!

  • Mary McCoy

    You read my 10 year old mind about Little Women!

    • Beth K. Vogt

      Mary: Little Women will always be a favorite book of mine!

  • Sue G.

    I turned 50 this year and am really getting to enjoy my husband again. This year all three girls will be at college at the same and I’m really looking forward to being us again! Nice post.

  • Pamby50

    Life is all about the ups and downs. This year we will be celebrating 34 yrs. I didn’t think I would have this much time with him. Doctors tell you one thing but your spirit tells you another. We appreciate our time together. We love our kids. They are on their own journey right now.

  • Susan Wright

    I love the concept and reality of intentional romance.

  • Erin F

    congrats to Beth on her books 🙂 thanks for such a fun post!

  • Rhi

    really sweet description of love through the years. Thanks for sharing

  • rebecca moe

    Best answer I’ve seen yet to the “Chris’ question 🙂