Elizabeth Hoyt – The Joy of Real Love

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Beyond Romance to the Real-Life HEA

Mr. Hoyt snores.sweetest scoundrel

That may not seem like the best opening to a blog post on romance, but hear me out. Last night I lay in bed and listened to Mr. Hoyt’s snores and thought how lucky I was. Come October I will have been married for twenty-seven years to this man. I can’t remember if he snored when we first married, but he’s been snoring—ever louder and more violently—for the last fifteen years at least, and I’m thinking that it’ll only get worse as we age.

And I’m so very lucky.

This morning Mr. Hoyt made me coffee and brought me a cup along with a baguette he’d gone out and purchased for breakfast. I thanked him very nicely this morning, but some mornings—when I’m on a hard deadline and the words just will not come—I’ve only grunted in acknowledgement. I’m not exactly the easiest person to live with and yet Mr. Hoyt loves me. Sometimes I find that oddly—and profoundly—moving: that he loves me when I’m in a good mood and singing to the dogs and he loves me when I’m foul and bad-tempered. He knows me and he loves me.

Very, very few people in our lives actually know us. Oh, we meet and interact with dozensdearestrogue—maybe hundreds—of people a day. But think about it: how many of those people know what you’re like when you’ve been sick and barfing for three days? When you’ve just gotten up in the morning and your hair is all over the place? When your mother has died and you can’t move for the grief?

How many people know who you are in those moments and love you anyway? Maybe even love you because of who you are in those moments?

That to me is true romance: the ability to reveal ourselves to another, the good, the bad, and the ugly, and know that we are loved. It’s a rare thing. A thing to be treasured.

So tonight for dinner I’ll be making Mr. Hoyt new potatoes and pork loin because I know that Mr. Hoyt adores potatoes and red meat and it will make him happy. And later, when I lie in bed and listen to his snores, I’ll think how very lucky I am.

Because I love him.

Elizabeth recommends:

I recently read and loved BITTER SPIRITS by Jenn Bennett. She had such interesting characters and a wonderfully different setting: the roaring twenties in San Francisco.

Questions for the Author:

Tell us about a moment in your life when you experienced sheer joy. 

I was fifteen and standing on Hadrian’s Wall in Scotland, the wind blowing against my back, when I looked down and saw a red—bright, bright red—pony galloping across a field. I thought in that moment that it was the most beautiful thing I’d ever seen.

Tell us about a place that brings you joy, or is attached to a memory of joy.

My maternal grandmother’s house. It’s no longer standing, but I remember it vividly and can walk through all the rooms in my mind. My family would drive from Saint Paul, Minnesota to New Orleans, Louisiana every other year for Christmas. It took three days because we visited relatives on the way and I remember the excitement and joy of finally arriving at my grandmother’s house and her opening the door to us.

Tell us about a sound that brings you joy.

The sound of my sister’s laughter. It always makes me laugh, too.

What recent book have you read that brought you joy. (Or a book you read in your life that brought you so much joy you’ve never forgotten it.) Why?

NOWHERE BUT HOME by Liza Palmer left me with a smile on my face.

And for fun, the joy of choice ~

Pick your Chris! Chris Hemsworth, Chris Pine, Chris Pratt, Chris Rock, Chris Evans or Christopher Plummer (circ. 1964 aka Capt. Von Trapp?) – trying for a little diversity! ;o)

Chris Evans!

Elizabeth is generously giving away five copies of her latest book, DEAREST ROGUE. To enter, leave a comment here or on the Facebook post (find it here) or both. Comments must be left by Sept 4 at 11:59 pm CST.

EHred2008squareMedElizabeth Hoyt is the New York Times bestselling author of over seventeen lush historical romances including the Maiden Lane series. Publishers Weekly has called her writing “mesmerizing.” She also pens deliciously fun contemporary romances under the name Julia Harper. Elizabeth lives in Minneapolis, Minnesota, with three untrained dogs, a garden in constant need of weeding, and the long-suffering Mr. Hoyt.

Find her online at elizabethhoyt.com or visit with her on Facebook.

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  • Anna

    Don’t get me wrong, I love my Regencies, but I’ve been searching for different settings, like the 20’s, or the Edwardian era, or even the early or late Victorian era. Thanks for the recommendation!

  • Katherine Cummins

    “Mr. Hoyt snores.” I love that opening sentence to this blog post almost as much as I love your books. It made me think of my parents (my dad is also a champion snorer), although despite how much she loves him Mom will often stay downstairs and sleep on the couch if Dad falls asleep first because once he gets going she can’t get to sleep. But I figure if you’re willing to spend that many nights on the couch, surely it must be love 🙂

  • Dorothy Salvagin

    We may all think we are married to the same snoring guy but not all of us get the coffee and baguette. 🙂

  • cheryl c.

    I totally agree with your statement: “That to me is true romance: the ability to reveal ourselves to another, the good, the bad, and the ugly, and know that we are loved. It’s a rare thing. A thing to be treasured.” This defines true love, and true love is a precious blessing.

  • mariannewestrich

    I absolutely adored this post! Such a wonderful reminder that living the day-to-day with that someone is true love! Thank you!

  • suepeace

    I love your post and it is so true!! Especially about the people who really know you. Everyone knows I work night shifts, but only my husband knows what it’s like to live with me afterwards, lol (he’s a bit cranky, not me, right?)…I am always amazed that after watching childbirth (and our first one was not pretty!) that he still finds me desireable, lol. Some mornings I look in the mirror and I’m scared, but he never seems to be, lol 🙂

  • catslady

    Lovely post and have to say how much I enjoy your stories!

  • jcp smith

    Very sweet post! He sounds like he have sleep apena;)

  • Rose K

    Your post, much like your books, made me smile 🙂

  • Molly

    I love your books.

  • Carol Luciano

    How I love The Maiden Lane series. Thank you for all the hours of reading enjoyment I’ve received through your pages. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here.
    Carol L
    Lucky4750 (at) aol (dot) com

  • Ren

    My hubby and I have been married 29 years this year and you are right. He is the only person who knows knows me and he loves me any way. I am so glad you have that with your hubby. It is a very special thing,

  • Karen Mikusak

    Love your books! Thanks for the giveaway.

  • Meghan Lyndsey Ann Edwards

    My husband passed away six months ago, and I would give anything to hear him snoring again. I’m so happy to read how you appreciate your husband for the good and the bad.

  • Kareni

    What a truly lovely post, Ms. Hoyt. Wishing you and Mr. Hoyt many more years of joy together. And thanks for the pleasure you’ve brought me with your books. Happy writing.

  • May

    That’s so sweet! My husband snores too and I KNOW it’s not easy to sleep!

  • Deana Dick

    Thanks for sharing about yourself and your life. I’ve been married for thirty-two years now. He snores loudly but I don’t mind because I’m blessed to be with him everyday.

  • Michelle Fidler

    I like the Sound of Music and Christopher Plummer. Chris Pine and Evans are good, too. I like Regencies.

  • Debbie Fuller

    Thank you for taking the time to post here. Nice to know other spouse’s snore and the wives love them anyway.

  • Pamby50

    In 11 more days it will be 34 years. Yes I consider myself lucky. When I was diagnosed with a neuromuscular disease, there was no pity. It was just what do we need to do to keep you with us. He is my joy.

  • sj1384

    My darling hubby no longer snores thanks to the CPAP but he did that for me so I could sleep next to him. That’s love. As is the fact that he kisses me goodbye every morning while I’m still in bed with morning breath. That’s love too. So I make things like hot dogs, baked beans and mac and cheese with dessert brownies for dinner because he is like a child with his food choices and it makes him soooo happy. =D Lovely post!

  • Kim

    Congratulations on your upcoming wedding anniversary.

  • Dawn Anderson

    I love your Maiden Lane series. I cannot wait to read Sweetest Scoundrel.

  • Quinn Fforde

    That was lovely. I misted up a bit reading that. Thank you.

  • NSum

    This is the most moving author post and interview in my memory. Thank you for putting into words my relationship and even some of my joys. We will have 30 years this December and Mr. S brings me coffee in bed too.

  • Beautiful post..very touching =)

  • Cindy A

    Get that snoring checked. My husband did, and he had high blood pressure. Love your books, and yes, after 41 yrs. of marriage we still manage to surprise one another.

  • Marissa Yip-Young

    Sounds like a nice read.

  • So touching post! Thanks so much!

  • marypreston

    Nothing better than a real-life HEA.

  • Shannon O’Shea Schmieg

    Thanks for sharing. I have cherished keeper copies of every single Maiden Lane series novel except Dearest Rogue. And, I too loved Jenn Bennett’s Bitter Spirits!

  • Sue G.

    Love about the snoring hubby. Mine has gotten worse over the last five years (we’ve been married 26 yrs). Some nights it’s so bad I use ear plugs! LOL

  • Emmel

    It’s the fact that they love us–and we love them– through the ugly that’s amazing. Love is an unfathomable thing at times.

  • Patty Vasquez

    When you wrote that true romance is the ability to reveal ourselves to another, the good, the bad, and the ugly, and know that we are loved, I immediately thought of Lazarus Huntington and Temperance Dews. That was a man who finally found a woman with whom he could be himself, know he was loved, and love in return.

  • Erin F

    Awww… Mr. Hoyt sounds like a gem! And wow… you nailed the true essence of romance. I would love to have some one near and dear like that who will see and be with me in all of the good and the bad. That’s probably why I love epilogues. We get a glimpse of the after HEA. Thanks for sharing!

  • Violet Bick

    I have one sister who when she laughs hard, she snort-laughs. It used to embarass her, but I think she embraces it now. I know I love hearing it. And I love that my niece laughs just like her.

  • Lisa Hutson

    And I loved reading your post!! Thanks for sharing.
    I have to tell you, it doesn’t disturb me either. Our sons have always been perplexed when they whisper “Mom” from the door and I wake right up. But sleep happily thru my husbands snoring.
    And just as your writing says, gosh, I couldn’t love him more. He is an amazing husband, father, son and friend. And he loves me so much. I am not easy. And menopause has further challenged him. haha But still, we are at 35 years. Having a good time. We enjoy each others company. We both love to travel. Neither of us struggles with alone time. We agree about the big things.
    I know I am blessed.
    And I loved reading your post!! Thanks for sharing.

  • Gretchen Miller

    How lovely. Your going to be married as long as my folks have except there in late 660s and early 70s

  • Carlene Reeves

    My husband and I will be married 14 years this coming January. There isn’t another person that knows me better. He has seen it all and still loves me. I am so blessed to have such a wonderful husband and best friend.

  • Amy Livesay Hart

    Thanks for sharing more about you!

  • Jerry Marlatt Pierson

    My husband of 45 yrs snores very loud but he says I snore also. As long as he sleeps on his side he does not snore that much. When you love someone you take the good and the bad and work at the marriage. I enjoyed your post. Thank you for your giveaway and a chance to win.

  • Jennifer C

    Your essay was absolutely beautiful! Thanks for sharing it with us!

  • Bernadette Long

    My husband snores, too, and we will be married twenty nine years this November. I’m also lucky because he shows me how much be loves me in many little ways.

  • Sandy Xiong

    I remember when I first read your book, I snuck it from my sis-n-law’s pile of romance. I knew I would get in trouble for reading a romance book so I hid it with my school textbooks and read it at night. Definitely got me hook onto your books ever since!

  • Elizabeth ‘Liza’ Schroedle

    That was a lovely post. I have really enjoyed your Maiden Lane Series.

  • Diane Sallans

    that’s a very long drive you had for Christmas! We only had to go about an hour to get to both grandparents homes..

  • Connie Reynolds

    I enjoyed reading about her thoughts on true love because I realised it defined my emotions in words I could similarly express.

  • Range Girl

    It was lovely. It made me grateful for my husband, who’s been taking care of me while I’ve been sick this week and whom I’ve been taking for granted. Thanks for the reminder. And all the great books, too.


  • Texas Book Lover

    So true! Makes more think of my husband who says ” I don’t know what you’re talking about, I don’t snore” every time he wakes himself up snoring. It took me years to learn to sleep through his snores and now I hardly sleep when he’s at the dear lease.

  • gamistress66

    delightful post. it’s wonderful to find the joy in the little things and quirks of those we love 🙂

  • Alyn Yang

    You deserve a round of applause for writing this!

  • PhyllisC

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. What a lovely post! i love all your stories and enjoy reading them very much. 🙂

  • Marcy Shuler

    I loved your post, Elizabeth. It was so sweet!

  • Janie McGaugh

    Thank your for sharing about your husband. I try to remember to be grateful that my husband loves me just as I am.

  • Sharlene Wegner

    Thanks for sharing your real life true love story!

  • Eileen Aberman-Wells

    How wonderful that you know each so well that it doesn’t matter what mood you are in. We celebrated 33 years of marriage this pass June. Reading your post warmed my heart and made me smile. As do your Ms. Puppy posts on facebook. Thank you for sharing this wonderful essay.

  • Ellen

    Mr. Hoyt sounds like a wonderful man and he is lucky to have a loving wife. I am lucky to have a special husband, too. (His snoring is a very comforting sound to me.)

  • Glenda

    Yep, even the snoring is a good thing. It means your hubby is there with you! When my husband is gone for work, I even miss his snoring!

  • Sue

    Elizabeth you are one of my all time favorite authors!

  • Carin Shaughnessy

    A wonderful essay. I realized that last night when I was snuggling with my very sleepy husband. The joy of someone to touch. The joy of someone who loves me in spite of my faults. Who is always happy, so happy to see me. You’re right, that is the true HEA.

  • Martha B

    The Maiden Lane Series is terrific. But I first discovered you with your debut novel, The Raven Prince. It is one of my favorite stories featuring an interesting hero. I will say no more in case there are readers who have not discovered it yet. Something I re-read often (it is on my keeper shelf).

    Total aside, where in Minnesota do you now live? Have you gone to the Great Minesota Get Together (a.k.a. the Minnesota State Fair)? I really miss it. (We moved from MN 23 years ago). I was born and raised in Minneapolis. My husband is from the other side of the Mississippi (St. Paul).

  • Joanna Moreno

    Hurray for Chris Evans! 😉 I love your definition of romance. Don’t give me cliched, corny romantic gestures. Give me you. Period.
    Oh, and by the way, my sister’s laugh makes me laugh too. Sometimes even more than the actual reason of why we started laughing!

  • Michele Hayes

    I love your books, thanks for the chance to win.

  • Christyna

    Sounds pretty darn awesome to me! Who wouldn’t want to read about such love?

  • Connie Saunders

    My husband and I will be married 47 years in December and I also treasure his snoring. He is a funeral home director so we have learned how fragile and how precious life is!

  • flchen1

    Beautiful post, Elizabeth–thanks for reminding us about the beauty of romance!

  • kirsten west

    When you are with your other half, the “annoying” things aren’t that bad, because I would rather have those than not have them! My husband and I have been together 19 years.

  • Claire Gilless

    would love to see your writing style as I haven’t read your books before – thanks

  • I love your books Elizabeth! Thanks so much for stopping by! 🙂