Kate Meader – The Joy of The Moment


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Do you love Romance? Let’s celebrate. xo

Romance—The Moment It Clicks

Much maligned, equally beloved, trashy beach reads, source of joy and tears—romance isMelting-626x1024 so many things to so many people, but to the regular romance reader like you and me, it is the thing that conjures a flutter in our stomachs and a hitch in our hearts. Reading romance is a salve. It keeps us up all night and makes us bleary eyed at work the next morning. Romance is our touchstone when we need an escape from the kids or chores or the crappy day that started off with a coffee spill and a late train. There are sunbursts of joy everywhere we look, but nowhere are they more evident than in the happy-ever-after of two people finding in each other that one perfect person who fills the gaps. As readers, we crave that joy because it equals love, and nothing is worth celebrating more than love.

Writing romance, on the other hand, can seem like the least joyous thing in the world. It’s 2 a.m. on the day of a deadline and you still don’t know who your characters are. They are moving around in rooms and bantering up a storm and having amazing sex, but basically… well, it sucks. Big time. There’s no chemistry, no spark, no joy. Authors gouge hair and gnash teeth and make bargains with the gods if only they will give us a sign that this turd can be polished into gold. In these moments, there’s not a lot of love, Meader Even the Scoreromance, and certainly no joy.

And then it happens: something clicks—a line of dialogue, a scenario that challenges you to look at your characters differently, a moment of clarity that changes your story from work to pleasure. “I’d do this for free”, you say (it’s two in the morning and you made a deal with the gods, remember?). You recall why you love romance in the first place—not just because it gives you the good feels, but because when you’re writing it and it clicks, you’ve translated your joy to the page. Giving that little part of yourself is just another way to spread the love.

So when you get to that moment in a romance—you know the one, where that squadron of butterflies in your stomach take a dive bomb or your pulse rate shoots into the stratosphere or you just think, “yeah, that’s what I’m talking about”—know that you’re sharing that experience with the author and a bunch of fellow readers. Joy is contagious; let’s make romance just as infectious.

Kate recommends:

I usually write m/f contemporary romance, but my next release is an m/m novella in the Hot in Chicago series called MELTING POINT. So for recommendations, and because this has been a momentous year for love regardless of who you are, I’d like to give a shout out to a couple of favorites who write LGBQT romance: the author who turned me on to m/m romance KA Mitchell, who writes crazy, funny, flawed characters I love, and a recently new-to-me author, fellow Chicagoan, Amy Jo Cousins. Her Bend or Break series is incredible.

Questions for the Author:

Tell us about a moment in your life when you experienced sheer joy. 

The day I signed with my agent. A lot of authors might say it’s the day they signed their first book deal (that happened a few weeks later), but the moment Nicole Resciniti told me she wanted to work with me was life-changing. Up until that point, I had no idea if I had the chops to be an author, and learning that someone in the industry thought I was good enough to take a chance on was such a relief—and a total joy.

Tell us about a place that brings you joy, or is attached to a memory of joy.wedding2

Italy: where I got engaged and married (in a tenth century castle!). Read my own fairy tale story here

Tell us about a sound that brings you joy.

I’m supposed to say the sound of children laughing, aren’t I? But for me, it’s that first sizzle when a steak lands on the grill. One, it means there’s a fabulous, home-cooked meal in my future. Two, someone else is cooking it (Mr. M. is the resident grillmeister). Three, it tells me life is good. Pure joy right there.

What recent book have you read that brought you joy. (Or a book you read in your life that brought you so much joy you’ve never forgotten it.) Why?

There are so many recent books, but the one that has had the most impact on me is A Prayer for Owen Meany by John Irving. That book blew me away. It’s about faith, forgiveness, and how heroes are forged. I cried when I first read it and laugh more when I re-read it each year.

And for fun, the joy of choice ~

Pick your Chris! Chris Hemsworth, Chris Pine, Chris Pratt, Chris Rock, Chris Evans or Christopher Plummer (circ. 1964 aka Capt. Von Trapp?) – trying for a little diversity! ;o)

I was tempted to say Christopher Plummer, not as Capt. Von Trapp, but as Klingon General Chang in Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country, but I’ll be sane and say Chris Hemsworth. He’s the model for my firefighter hero, Gage “Baby Thor” Simpson in my upcoming m/m novella, MELTING POINT, releasing August 31.

Kate is generously offering a set of signed print books including: all three books from the Hot in the Kitchen series about sexy chefs, and the two print books so far in the Hot in Chicago series about smokin’ firefighters—so 5 books from my backlist. Domestic only, apologies to international friends.

Kate Meader 2Originally from Ireland, Kate cut her romance reader teeth on Maeve Binchy and Jilly Cooper novels, with some Mills & Boon thrown in for variety. Give her tales about brooding mill owners, oversexed equestrians, and men who can rock an apron or a fire hose, and she’s there. Now based in Chicago, she writes sexy contemporary romance with alpha heroes and strong heroines who can match their men quip for quip.

Find Kate online at katemeader.com.

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  • Great interview! I’ve been dying to read the first book in her Hot in Chicago series!

    • Kate Meader

      Hope you get to read it soon, Danielle (even better if you can win it!)

  • Melisa Safchinsky

    I haven’t read too many M/M or LBGT romances and I’m always looking for new suggestions! Will have to check them out!

    • Kate Meader

      I’m a fairly new convert myself, Melisa. So many books – agh!

  • I love that you got married in a castle! 🙂

    • Kate Meader

      Right, Lynn? Not too shabby!

  • Melissa Cowling Terry

    You are a new to me author. I’m looking forward to reading your books.

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Melissa – I hope you can get around to it one day 😉

  • Jennifer C

    Happy 10th anniversary! Did you go back to the castle?

    • Kate Meader

      Alas, no, Jennifer. We thought about it for this year but decided to go to Asia for 3 weeks instead. Another fab vacay!

  • mariannewestrich

    This is the best month! I get to meet so many new-to-me authors. I look forward to reading your books.

    • Kate Meader

      Isn’t it, though, Marianne? So many more books to add to the TBR.

  • What a great post Kate! I am addicted to the Hot in Chicago series!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Victoria! Melting Point is up next, then Alex and Eli in Playing with Fire – my fave couple to date!

  • Amy Livesay Hart

    Thank you so much for the giveaway! Enjoyed your answers!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Amy – good luck in the giveaway!

  • cheryl c.

    I enjoyed reading your post. I have added your Hot in the Kitchen series to my TBB list.

    • Kate Meader

      Yay, Cheryl. The TBR gets longer and longer…

  • Dorothy Salvagin

    I’m a recent convert to your books. Keep ’em coming.

    • Kate Meader

      A convert – hooray! I’ll keep writing as long as people keep reading.

  • catslady

    Sounds like a lot of great reading – thanks.

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks for stopping by and supporting RARM!

  • Kareni

    While a sizzling steak sounds good, I have to admit those goodies you posted on your Facebook page on July 24 are calling my name! Happy writing.

    • Kate Meader

      lol, Kareni.

  • Karen Mikusak

    Thanks for the awesome giveaway. I’m crossing my fingers!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks for commenting, Karen.

  • Kathleen Bylsma

    I especially like the comment re Mr. M. A wonderful spouse is hard to find. I know, I had one….called away much to soon…now I cherish watching other loving couples.

    • Kate Meader

      He’s definitely a keeper, Kathleen 😉

  • Christyna

    Good point about that butterfly-in-the-stomach feeling that is shared by all readers. It is really a bonding experience, even if you don’t have anyone around you as you read.

    • Kate Meader

      It truly does make you feel part of a community. Romance readers are the best!

  • Debbie Fuller

    Love all the recommendations. Thanks for the post.

    • Kate Meader

      No problem, Debbie!

  • Thank you for bringing us joy and for the italian wedding!! ;-))

    • Kate Meader

      Ah, to be in Italy again…

  • Wonderful post, Kate! Love your books and am counting the days until Gage’s novella releases! Now off to read your Italian love story. 🙂

    • Kate Meader

      Another Gage fan – great to see you at RWA, PJ!

  • jcp smith

    Thank you for the giveaway! I loved Hot and Bothered–it’s on my best books I’ve read this year. Sadly, it’s the only book I’ve read of yours so far. Thank you for the chance to win!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks so much for the H&B love, jcp — good luck in the giveaway!

  • Lorie Glowania

    I love reading your books thanks for the awesome giveaway

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Lorie — see you next week in Schaumburg!

  • Elizabeth Breese

    I’m so glad I found your books – I need to go read your backlist now!

    • Kate Meader

      I’m glad you found them too, Elizabeth 🙂

  • Sheila M

    Thanks for sharing your love story!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks for dropping by to read, Sheila!

  • BookLady

    How romantic — to be married in a tenth century castle in Italy! Thanks for sharing.

    • Kate Meader

      Pretty romantic for a romance author, for sure!

  • Marcy Shuler

    I love *that* moment in books! Romances make me happy.

    • Kate Meader

      You and me both, Marcy!

  • kirsten west

    I can only imagine the headaches that romance writers go through! Love to read it, though.

    • Kate Meader

      Yes, we suffer for our art 😉

  • Patty Vasquez

    It is an interesting perspective to think about the blood, sweat, tears, and love an author puts into her book and then the joy a reader takes away from the same book. Then, to complete the circle, as the reader loves the book, that same love cycles back around to the author. Cool!

    • Kate Meader

      I thought so, too, Patty – thanks for commenting!

  • Aleen D

    Your books sound so interesting! Thanks for the chance!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Aleen — good luck!

  • Diana Michelle Tidlund

    love the black and white wedding photo more than colored…looks wonderful

    • Kate Meader

      Yep, B&W = all class!

  • Angela H

    Your books sound good, I will have to check them out

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Angela.

  • Seanna Yeager

    Mmm, steaks. 😉

    • Kate Meader

      ‘Nuff said 😉

  • Beth K. Vogt

    “And then it happens: something clicks—a line of dialogue, a scenario that challenges you to look at your characters differently, a moment of clarity that changes your story from work to pleasure.” Ah yes: a particular moment of joy for writers!

    • Kate Meader

      Figured you’d understand, Beth 🙂

  • Ren

    Thanks for sharing your story. Italy is the one place I want to visit most in the world. I’m jealous/happy you were married there. It sounds fabulous

    • Kate Meader

      It was fabulous, Ren — one day you’ll get there!

  • Mary McCoy

    Happy 10th anniversary, love the hunt for the bandage hat!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Mary! Yep, fun times all around.

  • Diane Blaser

    Black and White wedding photos are timeless!

    • Kate Meader

      Aren’t they, Diane? Thanks for commenting.

  • flchen1

    That is a very joyful sound, Kate! What a blessing that your husband is also a grill master 😀 Thanks for the lovely interview!

    • Kate Meader

      Thank you! Yes, blessed indeed.

  • Texas Book Lover

    WOW! A castle! That’s an amazing story!

    • Kate Meader

      Hard to beat a castle, right?

  • Dawn Anderson

    That’s a beautiful wedding picture and at a castle, wow!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Dawn. Wow, for sure!

  • Emmel

    Love the idea of a wedding in an Italian castle!

    • Kate Meader

      I loved it so much I did it! Thanks for stopping by, Emmel 🙂

  • Linda Henderson

    I’ve been married and divorced twice so I didn’t get my HEA, that’s one of the reasons I enjoy reading romance so much. I love seeing characters get their happily ever after.

    • Kate Meader

      Still time to get that HEA, I hope, Linda. Thanks for commenting.

  • Sue G.

    “if only they will give us a sign that this turd can be polished into gold.” I love your sense of humor! Love your books!

    • Kate Meader

      Thank you for the book love, Sue!

  • Sharlene Wegner

    Thanks for sharing your story & congratulations on your success!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Sharlene!

  • Pamby50

    Kate you are a new author for me but I can hardly wait to read your books. Throwing steaks on the grill in Chicago. My question is does your husband grill year round like my crazy husband? My brothers visited for Thanksgiving and my husband was grilling. They took pictures because there was a foot of snow.

    • Kate Meader

      Yes, my husband grills in Winter! In fact, my family came to visit from Ireland one Christmas and couldn’t believe he was out on the deck in minus ten degree weather, grilling up the filets for dinner.

  • Carol Luciano

    That is one smoking cover. Love it. I agree with the black & white photos. They ae amazing. Thanks for the giveaway.
    Carol L
    Lucky4750 (at) aol (dot) com

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks for the cover and photo love, Carol — good luck in the giveaway!

  • Erin F

    I totally agree with the sensation and thrill of reading romance 🙂 congrats on your books and thanks for sharing!

    • Kate Meader

      Great minds think alike, right, Erin? 😉

  • Eileen Aberman-Wells

    Hi Kate!! I’m not sure I can top your wedding story but it seems fitting that a romance author got married in an Italian castle. I really enjoyed your post. Thank you!!

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Eileen!

  • Michele Hayes

    I love finding authors that are new to me. Thanks for the

    • Kate Meader

      Thanks, Michele, and good luck!

  • Glenda

    Great post, Kate! And you are right, this has been a momentous year for love all around! I’ve got friends who have been together for over 25 years – more than one couple BTW – who are finally able to be officially recognized. It’s about time!

    • Kate Meader

      Sure is, Glenda! Thanks for dropping by.

  • Diane Sallans

    Chefs & Firefighters – both excellent leading man material!

    • Kate Meader

      Sure are, Diane!

  • rebecca moe

    Hmmm. Now I’m going to have to re-read “Baby Thor” ‘s novella again, just to fully appreciate it with that visual in my head.

    Fortunately, it’s not going to be a hardship. At. All. 🙂

    • Kate Meader

      Ha, visuals always help, Becky!