Codi Gary – My Tribe #LovesRomance

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Welcome to Read-A-Romance Month 2016!

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I’m Sorry…Why Don’t You Love Romance?

From the time I was a tween, I have had a love of romance. Actually, if I’m being honest, I’ve loved romance Hero of Minesince I was three and listened to Cinderella on cassette tape for the first time.

Which is why when people tell me they don’t read romance, it baffles me.

In January, I went to a signing, which was a pretty awkward experience. First of all, I was the only romance author out of three speakers, and one of them was an inspirational author. The minute a Catholic priest walked in and sat down in the audience, I wanted to run for the door.

Instead, I decided to take my turn and educate the crowd about what romance really is. After all, I was invited and I had driven two hours to do this talk, I was darn sure gonna do it!

Romance is female empowerment. It is character growth. It is about how love can heal old wounds. It’s about laughter and happiness. It’s about knowing that after all the tears and the gut wrenching drama, a happily ever after is inevitable.

And then I asked how many people read romance. Only three people raised their hands; my friend, and the two librarians.

Then I asked the crowd why. Why didn’t they read romance?

One woman said she prefers non-fiction. I nodded and told her I liked reading non-fiction, too, mostly true crime. Another said it just wasn’t her thing, and when I asked her to elaborate, I could tell what she wanted to say…

Because of all the sex.

Then I mentioned several amazing authors who wrote clean romances; no sex, no language…just really goodOne Lucky Hero stories without the naughty bits.

By the time I had finished, I felt good. I’d made them laugh, and I’d come back with rebuttals on all of their reasons for why they didn’t give romance a try.

Afterwards, I didn’t sell a single book, but I did have several people come by and tell me how much they appreciated my talk. One woman had even written down some of the authors I had mentioned. And I had another come up and tell me good luck with my career, that she was really impressed, if only she liked romance.

My excitement dimmed a little.

Because my reaction to people not liking romance is like Jessica Day’s astonishment that Julia is not a dessert person. (Sorry, New Girl reference.) It just boggles the mind…

But you know what? For every one person who doesn’t read romance, there are a thousand more like us that are rabid for it. That night, I wasn’t among my people, but all I need to do is hop on Facebook, or go to any romance conference and there you are. My tribe. The people who find a book they love and share it with everyone they know. Who have book boyfriends! Who stalk your favorite authors in the best way possible!

I don’t need to educate you on why romance is awesome. You’re already there.

And I love you for it!

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Questions for the Author:

Tell us about a moment in your life when you felt romance surrounding you.Codi & son

The first time I held my son in my arms, it was as if the world around me faded and stood still. I had gone through so much, and was forced to wait a full day before I saw him. The minute the nurse handed him to me, I stared into his little face and feel hopelessly in love with my baby boy.

Tell us about someone special in your life (other than your partner) with whom you share romance.

My Sister from another Mister, T.J. Kline and I, spend hours on the phone every week talking romance. Romance plots in our own novels, books we’ve read lately, and shows and movies that we just adored. I love T.J. and Codiher so much.

Do you have a place in the world or a sound that you equate with romance?

I always think of Scotland when I think of romance, because I love highland historicals romances and they were some of the first romances I became obsessed with.

Who is your (or a) favorite romantic couple?

I love Scarlett and Gunner from Nashville. I could watch their story unfold forever!!!

Tell us about your dream date.  eileandonancastle

Although it wouldn’t be just one date, someday I’d love to take a trip to Scotland with my husband and explore castles, pop into pubs and local restaurants, and experience the history I love so much.

Codi Gary is generously giving away one copy of One Lucky Hero in audio to a US  friend, and an e-copy of One Lucky Hero to an international reader.

To enter the giveaway, leave a comment below or on the *Facebook post you’ll find here (or both – Share the Love!) ;o) by 11:59 pm PST August 22, 2016.  Good luck! (You’re free to enter if you can accept either of those platforms.)

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#LoveRomance  #HappyReading

Codi Gary Author PhotoAn obsessive bookworm, Codi Gary likes to write sexy contemporary romances with humor, grand gestures, and blush-worthy moments. When she’s not writing, she can be found reading her favorite authors, squealing over her must-watch shows, and playing with her children.

She lives in Idaho with her family.

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  • JoAn Varner

    Thank you for sharing your experience at the signing. I have a good friend who only reads romance so we always have lively discussions as I usually only read romantic suspense.

    • codigary

      LOL I read it all depending on my mood! And thank you for taking the time to read my post. It was actually kind of funny, especially the priest. 🙂

  • Sue G.

    I don’t get why people put down romances either. It gives them all the same stories that their other books do, just with a lot more feeling!

    • codigary

      Exactly! Oh well…more for us! Bwahaha!

  • Linda Henderson

    I can’t understand people not reading romance. I loan books to my daughter to read and she used to tell me they had too much sex in them. Then she turned around and read the 50 Shades series. I’m like WHAT? So, to each their own. My sister and I read a lot of the same authors but she reads more sci-fi than I do and she also reads westerns. Like Louis L’Amour westerns. I can’t get into a western that doesn’t have romance in it.

    • codigary

      Me neither! I gotta have a little love in my books. 🙂

  • donnas

    What a great post. While I do read mostly romance it is not all that I read. But if the people who claim they dont read it at all, really looked at what they do read. They would find more romance in there than they think.

    • codigary

      Exactly! I just love knowing that despite all the tears and heartbreak that may come with the growth of the couple, I am going to get that happy ending!

  • Debbie Fuller

    I’m so glad you stayed and educated all those who don’t read romance. I love it it all its forms/genre’s. Thank you for a great post.

    • codigary

      Thank you for reading it and commenting!

  • Pamby50

    I’m not sure I could have stayed and educated the gathering. Yet it is so true. There are many books that don’t have the sex and swearing. They are sweet. I do love Scotland. I am Scottish on my father’s side of the family and would love to go exploring.

    • codigary

      I have some on my mother’s side and my father’s side has Irish. 🙂 Me too! I want to see everything!

  • Love you, Codi! You rock!!

    • codigary

      Thank you! <3

    • Ada H

      Hi Marinella, you have been chosen as Codi Gary’s winner. Please send a message with your email address to me at and we’ll put Codi in touch with you. Thanks and Congrats!

      • Thank you so much! I’m very happy to have won a book by amazing Codi Gary!

  • mariannewestrich

    You need to come to one of the many conferences for just romance writers and readers. You’ll find your tribe there!

    • codigary

      Hugs! I love RWA and RT! I had to skip them this year, but will be at Buns and Roses in Dallas come October!

  • Eileen Aberman Wells

    I love the way you handled speaking to that crowd. I started reading historicals because of my love for history (herstory?). Now that I”m older I prefer contemporary. Each person reads for different reasons. Sometimes I’m in the mood for a cozy with no sex, other it’s for an erotic read. Thank you.

  • KV

    I think it was awesome that you opened their minds to romance books. I like the laughter, sadness, & happily ever that romance books provide.

  • Kareni

    I hope that your next signing has more readers of romances and fewer nay sayers. Thanks for an enjoyable post.

  • Mary McCoy

    Our tribe rocks!