Jennifer Bernard – Love Wins

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#LoveRomance

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Like many of us lovers of romance, I was trained from an early age to see my beloved books as … silly, at best. DriveYouWild.CoverAt worst, maybe embarrassing would be the right word. Shallow, frivolous. Possibly, from some perspectives, even dangerous. I remember a guilty moment when my sister was engaged in a passionate political argument while I was utterly absorbed in the romance I was reading. (Hey, the hero was groveling! I love those scenes!)

“How can you waste time on that stuff when there are real issues out there?” My sister accused. “You’re rotting your brain! You should be out there doing something for the world!”

And for years, I believed that. I didn’t stop reading romance, mind you. Oh no, I needed the escape of my comfort reads. I needed my imagination to be able to soar into these different worlds, but safely, with the familiar pattern that I knew would end well. But I internalized that judgment from others. I guess I’m just not very discriminating, or maybe I’m just shallow. Silly. Frivolous.

I hurled those insults at myself instead of considering that maybe, just maybe, the critics of romance were wrong.

Have you ever heard the quote, “The universe is made up of stories, not atoms?” We’re constantly telling caught by youourselves stories, and telling other people stories. It’s how we make sense of the world. We try to make order out of chaos, meaning out of seeming madness. So many things can pit one human against another. We see it every day in the media. It can be utterly bewildering. When we’re surrounded by conflict and antagonism, how do we make sense of it? What kind of stories can we tell to find resolution, hope, and peace?

In a romance novel, two (or more!) people triumph over any number of potential conflicts, barriers, misunderstandings and other catastrophes. They are able to see past their own prejudices, wrong judgments and ego. They find that the joy of union is greater than the buzz of antagonism. It’s not a simple path, of course. There’s opposition, attraction, reversal, confusion, separation, and the all-important Black Moment when All is Lost. But at the end comes transcendence. In a romance novel, love wins.

It’s a little thing we like to call the Happy Ever After.

As we know, that pesky HEA is one of the main reasons romance gets such a bad rap. “That’s not real life.” “You’re selling a fantasy.” “Women will expect perfect heroes.”

Exactly! It’s not a real life – it’s a story. And the universe is made up of stories, remember? What stories are we going to tell ourselves? Are we going to only tell bleak, depressing stories, whether in the news or in fiction? Why can’t we also tell stories that uplift us, that make us smile, that give hope? Romance novels offer a narrative that says this: happiness lies in opening your heart, in letting down barriers, in putting aside pride and ego for something greater. Romance novels say we’re not alone. We’re greater together than apart.

And isn’t that just as worthy and necessary, if not more so? I see now – all these years later – that it’s not shallow at all. It’s not silly or a waste of time. It’s something that needs to be said. Love wins.

That’s how I choose to make sense of the world. Love wins.

Jennifer Bernard recommends:

LizBeth Selvig   –    lizbethselvig.com    (at Amazon)

Erin Nicholas    –    erinnicholas.com    (at Amazon)

Lorraine Heath  –   lorraineheath.com    (at Amazon)

Sarina Bowen  –   sarinabowen.com    (at Amazon)

and my favorite author of all-time, Lisa Kleypas  –  lisakleypas.com    (at Amazon)


Questions for the Author:

Tell us about a moment in your life when you felt romance surrounding you.

This might sound like a cliché, but bear with me. I truly felt surrounded by romance on my wedding day, but not for the usual reasons. It was because of the weather! We got married in Hawaii during the rainy time of year. My husband-to-be set up an elaborate tent system, but on the morning of the wedding it absolutely poured. So much rain came down that the seams broke open and people had to keep dodging sudden random waterfalls. But then, an hour before the wedding, the sun broke through, the rain stopped and the mud dried. I was so beyond grateful—and I keep that moment in mind every time my husband and I go through a rainy patch.

Tell us about someone special in your life (other than your partner) with whom you share romance.

My college roommate and I used to spend hours and hours and hours – all night and into the next morning – analyzing our relationships with our boyfriends, and then moving on to our friends’ relationships.  (It’s a good thing they didn’t know.)  I basically see my college years as a crash course in romance. We spent so much time trying to figure out why our friends did the things they did. It was a great education, and has served me so much more than most of the classes I took! 

Do you have a place in the world or a sound that you equate with romance?

Hawaii will always mean romance to me. The ocean, the stars, the air, the coqui frogs, everything. My husband proposed to me there, we got married there, and we’ve spent every single anniversary there.  Every time I step off the plane my heart opens up.

Who is your (or a) favorite romantic couple?love+actually+main

Since you’re making me choose, I’ll say the couple in Love Actually. Actually, almost all the couples in Love Actually. I love the Colin Firth character who learns Portuguese to communicate with his love, and the Prime Minister (Hugh Grant) going door to door to find his assistant  — and the rock star and his manager, who suddenly realize they’re each probably the most important person in each other’s lives. And the guy who is finally able to walk away from his best friend’s new wife, once he tells her on cue cards how he feels. That movie is pure bittersweet romance from the entire spectrum, bitter to sweet.

Tell us about your dream date. 

My husband once took me on a date to the Observatory at Mauna Kea, in Hawaii. You can stargaze there every mauna kea stargazingnight, but on “new moon” nights the local astronomy club sets up extra telescopes focused on celestial bodies like the Horseshoe Nebula and other things I’d never heard of. That spot has the best conditions for stargazing anywhere in the entire northern hemisphere–360 degrees of pure, pristine starry sky. It’s chilly because the elevation is so high, so you have to cuddle with your sweetie as you gaze up at the heavens. It’s actually incredibly romantic! After that we drove down the mountain and found a sushi place that was open late.  A cool experience plus food – that’s my dream date!

 Jennifer Bernard is generously giving away a complete set of Love Between the Bases novels (All of Me, Caught by You, Drive You Wild) to one lucky reader, and two readers will each receive a copy of Drive You Wild (US only, apologies to international friends). 

To enter the giveaway, leave a comment below or on the *Facebook post you’ll find here (or both – Share the Love!) ;o) by 11:59 pm PST Aug 15, 2016.   

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#LoveRomance  #HappyReading


Jennifer.PhotoJennifer Bernard is a USA Today bestselling author of contemporary romance. Her books have been called “an irresistible reading experience” full of “quick wit and sizzling love scenes.” A graduate of Harvard and former news promo producer, she left big city life in Los Angeles for true love in Alaska, where she now lives with her husband and stepdaughters.  She still hasn’t adjusted to the cold, so most often she can be found huddling with her laptop and a cup of tea. No stranger to book success, she also writes erotic novellas under a naughty secret name that she’s happy to share with the curious.

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  • Jami Birnbaum

    Hi Jenny ~ I love that you love Love, Actually. It’s also one of my favorite movies!!!

  • Linda Henderson

    You know as bad as things are right now politically we need the escape of romance books. I’ve got to where I hate to watch the evening news, I’d much rather be reading.

  • Kim

    I’m a movie buff, but I’ve never seen Love, Actually.

  • Sue G.

    How fun that you get back to Hawaii every year! It’s on my dream list of places to visit some day!

  • Debbie Fuller

    So many new to me author recommendations, thank you.

  • cheryl c.

    Love Actually was a wonderful movie. I haven’t seen it in years, so you have inspired me to watch it again soon.

  • Cheryl Hastings

    Love wins. That’s exactly what it’s all about and why I read romance, and only romance! Thanks for the great post!

  • Pamby50

    Love Actually was a fun movie. I even love the boy learning to play the drums to impress the girl. Running through the airport to just see her. Heart melts. Young love. Love does win!

  • Krysten Mich

    Aw man, I would love to go to Hawaii, that date night sounds wonderful! Absolutely love all of her books (especially the firemen) 😉

  • Sharlene Wegner

    I loved Hugh Grant’s little dance in Love Actually! Thank you for the post! Hawaii is gorgeous! We went there on our honeymoon 25 years ago & haven’t been back since. 🙁

  • Meghan Stith

    Ugh. I’ve never been to Hawaii but I want to SO BAD!

  • Melisa Safchinsky

    I adore Love Actually! One of my favorite movies to watch around the holidays!

  • mariannewestrich

    I’ve got to get to Hawaii! And we share some of the favorite authors!!!

  • Quinn Fforde

    Good point about Gilgamesh. You should make t-shirts!

  • Eileen Aberman Wells

    I don’t think I can say anything here you haven’t already heard from me. I love your books!! I fought similar arguments about reading romance novels, but I didn’t care. Reading was all that matters!! I’ve read lots of different genres, but I always come back to romance. Thank you for your post and for sharing.

  • donnas

    Yes, absolutely. I dont want to read about the horribleness that people call RL on the news. I want happy and wishful and something that gives me hope for a better tomorrow.

    • Bobbi Dumas

      Hi Donnas –

      You’re one of Jennifer Bernard’s winners! I think I have your email address from this post, so I’ll confirm it by email, or you can send me an email yourself to bobbiwrites (at) att . net and we’ll get your info to Jennifer asap. xo

      And actually, if you send your street address, that will save her a step.

      Congratulations! xo

      Bobbi

    • Hi Donnas –

      You’re one of Jennifer Bernard’s winners! I think I have your email address from this post, so I’ll confirm it by email, or you can send me an email yourself to bobbiwrites (at) att . net and we’ll get your info to Jennifer asap. xo

      And actually, if you send your street address, that will save her a step.

      Congratulations! xo

      Bobbi

  • Ellen

    Hawaii is on my list of places to visit. So glad it is such a special place for you.

  • Jolie Misek

    I loved all of Jennifer’s Bachelor Firemen of San Gabriel books.

    • Bobbi Dumas

      Hi Jolie ~

      You’re one of Jennifer Bernard’s winners! I think I have your email address from this post, so I’ll confirm it by email, or you can send me an email yourself to bobbiwrites (at) att . net and we’ll get your info to Jennifer asap. xo

      And actually, if you send your street address, that will save her a step.

      Congratulations! xo

      Bobbi

    • Hi Jolie –

      You’re one of Jennifer Bernard’s winners! I think I have your email address from this post, so I’ll confirm it by email, or you can send me an email yourself to bobbiwrites (at) att . net and we’ll get your info to Jennifer asap. xo

      And actually, if you send your street address, that will save her a step.

      Congratulations! xo

      Bobbi

  • rebecca moe

    Visiting Hawaii is definitely on my bucket list–that stargazing location sounds amazing!

    Great post–thanks for sharing!

  • Mary McCoy

    Your covers are definitely winners!