Kimberly Kincaid – Essential Romance

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Romance, Showing Us Out of the Darkness

When I sat down to write about why I love romance, I thought, “This is going to be a looooong post!” FearlessThere are so many compelling things to love—the butterflies in your belly when two characters meet on the page and you know they’ll end up together (even if they sure don’t know it yet), the back and forth of watching their happy ending unfold (usually the hard way), the complex characters, the worlds we might not normally get to visit otherwise. But above all, the reason I not only love romance, but need it, is that it offers the chance to escape for a few hours.

Let’s face it. We’re living in a tough world right now, where words like “Orlando” and “Paris” and “Sandy Hook” have different meaning than they did five years ago. We face frightening issues every time we turn on the news, and those issues are overwhelming. Add those issues to the things we face every day in our own lives, whether it be worries over our careers and finances, our spouses, our parents, or our kids, and life can become huge in the blink of an eye. We may think, “This is too much. It’s going to crush me.” We’re tempted to despair. We need, for a little while, to re-set, to breathe, to be reminded that there is something calm and good out there for us.

Enter romance.

I think back on the times in my life that were the most challenging—jobs I hated, relationships that didn’t Recklesswork, bills I struggled to pay—and I realize that when those things got so big that I thought they’d crush me, the way I gathered my wits was to read romance. I’m not suggesting escapism as a method of denial. I had to cope with whatever life threw at me. I had to figure out how to switch jobs, change or end those relationships that weren’t working, or pay the water bill. But in order to do that, I had to first find some hope that it would happen, and that hope came from the library. It came from stories of people who had conflicts in their lives and overcame them. It came from stories of people who found love.

A few years ago, the ever-incredible Kristan Higgins gave a keynote speech in which she likened romance writers to lanterns, offering the bright light to show readers the way out of darkness. And while I love romance for so many reasons, this is the biggest reason, the best reason that I do. It is lightness in the dark. It is a surefire happy ending when we need it the most. It offers us the hope that we can carry those happy endings into our own worlds, and it centers us so we can do what we need in order to make that happen. It’s not unrealistic.

It’s essential.

And that’s why I #loveromance.

Kim recommends: 

Cristin Harber   –   –   (at Amazon)

Pamela Clare   –   (at Amazon)

Laura Kaye    –  –   (at Amazon)

Questions for the Author:

Tell us about a moment in your life when you felt romance surrounding you.

My husband makes the best PB&J on the planet (I know, I know…romance. Stick with me.) He toasts the bread, then butters it, then gets the PB to J ratio just right…this sandwich is like heaven on a dish. I know this, because he makes me one every time I am stressed beyond measure. Any time I am having “That Day”, I can always count on him to make me a PB&J, and every time he does, I feel a little better. It’s a small thing, a simple thing, but every time that PB&J appears, I know how much I am fundamentally loved, for better or for worse.

Tell us about someone special in your life (other than your partner) with whom you share romance.

You know the saying, “Good friends will bail you out of jail, but best friends will be sitting in the cell next to you saying, ‘Man, that was fun!’”? I’m blessed to have my two best friends also be romance authors. Robin Covington and Avery Flynn and I share romance every day, whether it’s plotting stories or talking strategy or gushing about books we’ve read. We are all about the HEA!

Do you have a place in the world or a sound that you equate with romance?

Definitely my office. It’s in a happy, sunny corner of my house, and it’s full of all my favorite things (books and photo boards and books and mementos from conferences and books and my comfy writing chair and books.) Nearly all the writing happens there, so it’s not tough to equate that place with romance.

 Who is your (or a) favorite romantic couple?

If it’s a book couple, I’d have to go with Olivia and de Grey from Meredith Duran’s Fool Me Twice. They’re so completely unconventional and yet so well-matched at the same time. Plus, their chemistry is off the charts. For a real-life couple, I’ll go awwww and choose me and Mr. K. But it’s possible I am just a touch biased there!

Tell us about your dream date. 

I’m all about the food, so my ideal date is a belly-buster. I’d love nothing more than to hit a wine trail in Tuscany and just eat and drink my way through the countryside with Mr. K!


Kim is generously giving away an electronic copy of DEEP TROUBLE to one US reader and to one international reader. To enter the giveaway, leave a comment below or on the *Facebook post you’ll find here (or both – Share the Love!) ;o) by 11:59 pm PST Aug 8, 2016.***International friends, be sure to include your country in your comment so we know to include you in the international drawing.  Good luck!

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#LoveRomance  #HappyReading

Headshot KincaidKimberly Kincaid writes contemporary romance that splits the difference between sexy and sweet and hot and edgy romantic suspense. When she’s not sitting cross-legged in an ancient desk chair known as “The Pleather Bomber”, she can be found practicing obscene amounts of yoga, whipping up anything from enchiladas to éclairs in her kitchen, or curled up with her nose in a book.

Kimberly is a USA Today best-selling author and a 2016 and 2015 RWA RITA® finalist and 2014 Bookseller’s Best nominee who lives (and writes!) by the mantra that food is love. Kimberly resides in Virginia with her wildly patient husband and their three daughters.

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  • Amaya

    I’m new to the RARM but I believe I feel the same way about reading romances as a way to recharge and deal with life. It’s very reassuring to know that the heroine and hero will have their HEA – which makes me continue working towards mine. Thank you for the giveaway by the way! – Malaysia

    • Kimberly Kincaid

      Thanks for reading and joining in 🙂

  • Sue G.

    I’m with you….I read romances for the happy ending. Nothing is worse than reading a book and one of the main characters dies at the end. I don’t mind crying, but they better be happy tears!

  • Judy Goodnight

    I’m all for the happy ending! Like SEP says, life’s too short to read depressing books.

  • Cheryl Hastings

    This is exactly why I read romance, to escape the ugliness that exists in the world. I love your PB&J story 🙂 Don’t you just love a man who cooks for you?! Thanks for sharing with us, Kimberly 🙂

  • Bette Hansen

    Great article! I agree with you, romance is all about the HEA. The reason I #loveromance so much is for the escape from realities of every day life. Dark and depressing just doesn’t work for me.

  • Debbie Fuller

    Loved your post. You are so right and the reason I started reading romance in my own life. Love Kristan Higgins quote!

  • Sharlene Wegner

    I absolutely agree that reading romance can bring you peace & a fresh view on life. Thank you for the post. You are always so upbeat!

  • Heather Roach

    This post touched me so much. Thank you!

  • Pamby50

    Hi Kimberly! You are so right about needing to read romance to get you to a sane place. When I was diagnosed with polymyositis, which is a neuromuscular disease, I spent a month in the hospital and 3 months in a rehab center. The only books I wanted to read were romance books. Ones that gave me hope that things will work out. Once out, the library became me new best friend.


    I think romance gives us a reminder – that life can have happily ever after – and that can include the perfect p b & j.

  • K Davis

    I love this, “Kristan Higgins gave a keynote speech in which she likened romance writers to lanterns, offering the bright light to show readers the way out of darkness.” So true! I’ve had Play Me on my wish list forever. I would love to read your books.

    • Hi K – You’re Kim’s US winner. Please either reply here, send a mssg to the RARM FB page, or send an email to – include Kim Kincaid winner in the subject please – with your email address and we’ll get your book to you. xo

  • Eileen Aberman Wells

    I told you earlier, Kimberly, that I was seeing you everywhere today!! 🙂 You made some wonderful points and references. After being together 36 years, married for 34, it’s the little things that are special with my husband. BTW, I do love Kristan Higgins and her books.

  • Flora Segura-Buchler

    Hi Kim, great post! When you mentioned Kristin Higgins and her keynote address, I could so relate. I was at RWA last month when she spoke at the awards ceremony. She was chosen to present the Nora Roberts Lifetime Achievement Award to Robyn Carr. Her speech was all about Robyn, but at the same time it was all about inspiration, going on when the going gets tough and making lemonade when life hands you lemons. She managed to tell Robyn’s story beautifully and inspire her audience at the same time. When Robyn came on stage, you could see how those words had touched her as well. Then Robyn gave one of the most gracious acceptance speech I have ever heard. Of course, they are both giants in the field of Romance, but they also both left me feeling that I was in the presence of greatness.

  • mariannewestrich

    Wow! Love the PB&J. Mine is a an amaretto sour and the hubby provides them just when they are needed. He’s the best!

  • Judy C.

    I agree totally. I read romance to escape. It doesn’t mean we still do not have to deal with real life. It just makes it easier to deal with!

  • Pamela Aares

    Love the light out of the darkness image… beautiful and truly why romance is healing and powerful!

  • Brenda McCaw

    I can’t seem to get enough romance. I am never without at least one e-device so I can keep reading whatever is at the top of my TBR list. Would love to read one of yours up here in CANADA! Thanks,

  • Jami Birnbaum

    I love the way you describe the love that goes into Mr. K’s pb&j’s. You rock!

  • Gina Burgos

    Yum, Love the covers! 🙂

  • May

    Love your books… 🙂

  • Linda Henderson

    I love your covers. I think reading romance does help in this day and age. Too many sad things going on every day and most of us need to escape the madness and I’m lucky that I can do that by reading books from authors like you and all the other great romance writers out there.

  • Glenda

    Oh I want your dream date!! I can’t drink most wines sold in the US because of the added sulfites. I’ve been told they don’t add them in Europe.

  • Mary McCoy

    Thank you to one of my favorite lanterns!

  • rebecca moe

    Give me a romance over the news any day! Thanks for posting 🙂

  • donnas

    Great post and so very very true