Pamela Aares – Thriving With Romance

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Romance, Shining Light

Love is a tenacious adventure… Real love is one that triumphs lastingly over the hurdles erected by time, space and the world.” Alain Badiou

Sometimes people ask me: Why do I write romance? And why do I #LoveRomance?No Stranger to Love Cover LARGE EBOOK-1

The short answer is: A great romance novel, in addition to providing exquisite pleasure and entertainment, also shines a light into our souls. Great romances heal and transport us into the very realms we most need to explore. Powerful love stories provide a break in the day-to-day–an opening–that allows readers to enter a world where the hero and heroine face their greatest challenges and learn to heal their deepest wounds and thrive. We come out of a great romance read renewed, having seen the world in a new way and having lived the challenge with characters we love.

(With the power to entertain while also transporting, encouraging and healing, is it is any wonder that 1 out of 4 books sold in the world is a romance novel?)

And, as in the quote above from philosopher Alain Badiou, I am convinced that romance novels show us that love possesses the power to slice through the most powerful opposition and can bridge our deepest wounds. A great story takes us deep into love’s power and journey. The encounter between the hero and heroine is a life changing, challenging event–an event that sets love in motion and unleashes a process that is basically an experience of getting to know the world in a new way. True romance isn’t simply about two people meeting and their inward-looking relationship: Love is a process, a new life that is being conjured in the cauldron of our hearts and souls.Pamela Aares Box

To quote Badiou again: “Love is a tenacious adventure. The adventurous side is necessary, but equally so is the need for tenacity. To give up at the first hurdle, the first serious disagreement, the first quarrel, is only to distort love. Real love is one that triumphs lastingly over the hurdles erected by time, space and the world.”

Love shines a light on the path of destiny. This is what gives romance and romance novels their power. When the heroine and hero make their declaration of love, they move from the chance involved in the encounter that brought them together to choice.

Scientists are discovering that allurement lives at the heart of the universe and governs everything within it. Romance authors and readers have known this all along! In my Tavonesi Series I explore the power of love to guide, change, challenge and heal. In NO STRANGER TO LOVE, the first book of the Journey to Love Trilogy, Parker and Juliet discover that love won’t be shoehorned into our plans and preconceived notions. Love bares us to the bone and then lifts us like a thousand angels with helping hands when we surrender to its power.

So, what about you? Do you have a favorite a romance novel that has taken you on a deep journey into your heart and soul? A love story that has changed the way you look at or live in the world? That has inspired you to love life? Please share!

Pamela Aares recommends: 

Jami Davenport   –    (at Amazon)   she writes steamy sports romances!

Maggie Marr     –   (at Amazon)  everything Maggie writes zings.

And Sarah MacLean   –  (at Amazon)    After a long day of writing, there’s nothing better than diving in to one of Sarah’s historical romances. Never Judge a Lady by her Cover is a favorite.

Questions for the Author:

Tell us about a moment in your life when you felt romance surrounding you.

So many times I have tried to describe the spirit that rushed into my soul the afternoon that my husband and I P1020945were married on our deck overlooking the treetops. The first night we ever spent together was also infused with that same golden light that seemed to rush in and fill every cell in our beings. I can close my eyes and the power of those two life-changing moments pours into me, filling me with a powerful, palpable feeling of peace and promise and love.

Tell us about someone special in your life (other than your partner) with whom you share romance.

My mother is the most romantic person I know. She exudes love and seems to always find the beauty wherever she goes. She is my final reader after four rounds of professional proofreaders and she always finds a typo everyone else missed. But she has to read my manuscripts twice as she vows that the first time through she’s completely lost in the story! Last Christmas we clutched our steaming mugs of cocoa and tucked into her big bed and, amid overstuffed pillows covered in cabbage roses and lace (all made by her hand), watched reruns of Downton Abbey. Sometimes we’ll be walking in the woods, or a museum, or along the beach and out of nowhere she’ll ask a question about one of the characters from the Tavonesi Series. I love that the characters live and breathe in her long after she’s finished reading the books!

Do you have a place in the world or a sound that you equate with romance?77470077

To me, the songs of birds are the harbingers of love. Birdsong is heroic; birds sing above the noise of our busy lives and remind us that love is in the air.

And a place? OMG, I love the little island in Greece that served as inspiration for NO STRANGER TO LOVE. Tavernas by the sea, local musicians playing impossibly romantic songs, the crystal blue-green water, and the red-gold light kissing the hills as the sun sets over the ocean are exquisitely romantic. The Greeks love romance.

Who is your (or a) favorite romantic couple?jojomoyes me before you

Currently, Will and Lou from Jojo Moyes Me Before You, the movie couple… they are so darn perfect and show us what it means to truly love.

I’m also partial right now to Parker Tavonesi and Juliet Cabot, the hero and heroine of NO STRANGER TO LOVE. Even though the book is released, they are still alive and clamoring in my heart and soul. They may need a second story!

Tell us about your dream date. 

Right now my dream date would be a walk in an ancient forest with my husband. No agenda, no time constraints, just forest and sunshine and a blanket, and kisses and…well, the sensual experience of being in love in the woods!

Pamela Aares is generously giving away a signed copy of NO STRANGER TO LOVE (Tavonesi Series, Journey to Love Trilogy, Book #1) to one US reader, while two international readers will each win copies of the ebook boxed set GAME FOR ROMANCE, Books 1-4 of the Tavonesi Series.

To enter the giveaway, leave a comment below or on the *Facebook post you’ll find here (or both – Share the Love!) ;o) by 11:59 pm PST August 29, 2016.  Good luck! ***International friends, be sure to include your country in your comment so we know to include you in the international drawing.  Good luck!

(*You don’t have to like the FB page, but we do recommend it. It’s easier to contact you if you win. Also consider joining the Read-A-Romance Book Club page, where we discuss romance of all kinds and will have drawings and events throughout the year.)

#LoveRomance  #HappyReading


P AaresPamela Aares is a USA Today Bestselling, award-winning author of contemporary and historical romance novels. Her heartwarming and sexy contemporary series, The Tavonesi Series, explores the lives, loves, friendships and sizzling romances of the Tavonesi family and their captivating friends. Pamela’s books entertain, transport and inspire dreams while captivating and tugging at the heart. She takes her readers on a journey with compelling characters in both contemporary and historical settings who are thrown in situations that tempt love, adventure and self-discovery.

Before she began writing romance, Aares wrote and produced award-winning films including Your Water, Your Life, featuring actress Susan Sarandon, and The Earth’s Imagination. She lives in Northern California with her husband and two very curious cats. Pamela loves to hear from readers!

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  • Kareni

    Thanks for a thoughtful post, Ms. Aares. I’m trying to think of a romance that took me on “a deep journey into [my] heart and soul” and am drawing a blank. Either I’m shallow or I just read for the pleasure of the story! I’ll vote for the latter.

    • Pamela Aares

      Pleasure is often a window into the soul and heart! Thanks for your comment. Happy Reading!

  • mariannewestrich

    I think that every Kristen Ashley book has made me realize how much humor and laughter are essential in romance! Love her books!!!

    • Pamela Aares

      Ah yes– humor– how would we ever live without it? I’ll check out Kristen, thanks for the suggestion!

  • “With the power to entertain while also transporting, encouraging and healing, is it is any wonder that 1 out of 4 books sold in the world is a romance novel?”: a question to be asked to many readers! The love stories that have changed me, challenged me and inspired me are The english patient by Michael Ondaatje, Someone to run with by David Grossman, Dance with the devil and Styxx by Sherrilyn Kenyon, Wicked deeds on a winter’s night by Kresley Cole, L’ultimo orco by Silvana De Mari…and a lot of other books, for a reason or another.
    Thank you for your post!
    Marinella from Italy

    • Pamela Aares

      My Tavonesi family has Italian roots. May they challenge and inspire you! Thanks for commenting!

    • Ada H

      Hi Marinella, this is Ada and I’m helping with the RARM drawings. You have been chosen as Pamela Aares’s winner. Please send a message with your email address to me at and we’ll put Pamela in touch with you. Thanks and Congrats!

  • Debbie Fuller

    Great post and thank you for the book/author recommendations.

    • Pamela Aares

      Hi Debbie– you are most welcome! It’s always wonderful to share great books and authors with readers.

  • Ann Mettert

    I enjoyed your post.

    • Pamela Aares

      Thanks you Ann. Bobbi did a lovely job arranging the post and I’m so happy you enjoyed it!

  • catslady

    I’ve enjoyed Sarah’s stories and always happy to hear about new-to-me authors!

    • Pamela Aares

      Sarah rocks romance, I truly love her books. And she’s such a delightful person as well. Hope you enjoy the Tavonesi Series!

  • Jami Davenport

    Thanks so much for the shoutout.
    If you want to walk in ancient forests, you must come visit sometime. I live near the Olympic National Forest, home to old growth and rain forests.

    • Pamela Aares

      Thank you! I shot a documentary in the forest up there– would love to visit again! And it was my great pleasure to recommend your books!

    • Pamela Aares

      You are soon welcome, Jami!

  • Linda Henderson

    I love your books and especially the Tavonesi series. I have to admit, I’m partial to family series and I tend to read a lot of them. When I’m down, or sad, I will pull out some of my favorites (ones I’ve replaced since the tornado took all my books) and sit and re-read. Today I was a little down so I pulled out one of Nora Roberts Donovan stories Enchanted. No matter how many times I’ve read it I still enjoy it.

    • Pamela Aares

      Many of Nora’s books are on my keeper shelf (um… well, SHELVES, the house looks like a river of books!). I loved Chances and also adore the Donovan series. So sorry to hear about the tornado– if you write to me via my website, I’d be happy to send you a print book… let me know which Tavonesi series book you’d like to have.

  • Eileen Aberman Wells

    Thank you for your post. What a wonderful feeling that must have been the day you were married. Many of your books grace my kindle.

    • Pamela Aares

      I am truly honored, Eileen, thank you for loving the Tavonesi family and their captivating friends! I’ll keep them coming. Hearing from readers like you keep my fingers flying and my heart singing! Thank you.

  • Pamby50

    Great post. Enjoy your books. The one book that I have read lately is Forgotten Promises by Jessica Lemmon. I couldn’t put the book down and glad I had a box of tissues nearby. I love Susan Mallery’s Fool’s Gold Series but the book I loved the most was Before We Kiss. Sam’s parents had me cracking up that I had to read parts to my husband. This is my pick me up book.

    • Pamela Aares

      Jessica Lemmon is a new author to me, thanks for this. I write books that I feel will inspire, energize, transport and entertain– the books I want to read and seek out. Having one’s spirit lifted and picked up by a story– can’t ask for more!

  • Sue G.

    Nice post. When I read K. Bromberg’s Driven series, I was really moved by the pain the hero went through in his childhood…it shaped his entire adult life…and this really hit me on an emotional level.

    • Pamela Aares

      I’ll check out Bromberg, thanks for the recommendation… it never ceases to amaze me how our early days in life are the stuff of our challenges to become whole, joyous and happy.

  • Connie Saunders

    Your wedding day sounds lovely! Thanks for a great post.

    • Pamela Aares

      The beauty of finding a true soul mate is that every day is a blessing. The Chinese wisdom says beginnings are so important and I feel blessed to have had such a lovely wedding day… and to have found love. Thank for touching in.

  • rebecca moe

    What a lovely post! I think I want to watch Downton Abbey reruns from your mom’s bed too. Is that too weird? 😉

    Thanks for sharing!

    • Pamela Aares

      Oh No- not at all… who could have imagined such delight– the power of story– never to be underestimated! Have a great rest of your week and happy reading!

  • Mary McCoy

    Thank you for a great post!

    • Pamela Aares

      Thank YOU Mary for commenting– I am so happy you enjoyed my post and I hope you are swept away by the Tavonesi Family!

  • veRONIca

    My friend is also obsessed with Me Before You! I really need to read that book

    -from Canada

    • Pamela Aares

      Hi veRONIca– few films have stayed with me as much as the adaptation of Me Before You. Thanks for commenting and have a great weekend coming up!

    • Ada H

      Hi veRONIca, this is Ada and I’m helping with the RARM drawings. You have been chosen as Pamela Aares’s winner. Please send a message with your email address to me at and we’ll put Pamela in touch with you. Thanks and Congrats!