Deeanne Gist – Contemplating Romance

Hi friends!

Welcome to the 5th Annual Read-A-Romance Month!

While I read romance all year long, August is the month we celebrate this awesome genre!  Come back every day to read all three “Power of Romance” posts. Check out the full calendar of authors here. You can also find links to the last four years’ posts from the boxes in the sidebar, and if you’d like, you can follow RARM on Facebook.

Happy August!

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 Is Romance Dead?

“Romance is dead.” According to my twenty-six year old son, anyway. “Girls in my generation don’t want to be romanced.”

He’s a Texan who five years ago moved to a city far away from home. Shortly after arriving in his new locale, he took a young woman out and showed up at her door looking nice, smelling nice and holding a small bouquet of flowers. He handed them to her.

“You shouldn’t have done that,” she said. “That’s too much.”

He blinked. “Um … okay.”

She tossed the flowers on a table and walked out to the street. He opened her car door.

“What is it with you?” She gave him an irritated glance. “I can open my own door.”

At dinner, he didn’t dare pull out her chair. He called me the next day completely baffled. “She took all the courtesies I performed as slights when I intended them as gestures of respect. I wasn’t diminishing her. I was putting her first—before me and my needs and comforts. I, in no way, meant to insult her or insinuate that she was inferior—just the opposite.”

Over the course of the next five years, he learned that opening a door, allowing a female to precede him on or off an elevator, or offering assistance in carrying groceries is unwelcome, and, by some, viewed as demeaning. Proof that there is quite a bit of power in these age-old gestures. For him, though, the power came via negative reactions.

I know a lot of women in all walks of life and in all regions of our country who appreciate and even find it romantic when a man performs courtesies for them. So where is the disconnect? Why do some women equate gentlemanly courtesies to insults while it makes others feel cherished, respected and special?

My son no longer performs these gestures until he knows the young lady well and can gauge how she’ll feel about them.

“Except for the elderly, Mom,” he assures me. “I still do all those things when I encounter an elderly woman.”

So, what do you think? Do you find gentlemanly gestures romantic or insulting? And why?

Deeanne recommends:

Kristan Higgans     –       www.kristanhiggins.com     –      @Amazon

My I-buy-without-reading-the-blurb author is Kristan Higgins. If she writes it, I love it.

 

Kellie Coates Gilbert     –     kelliecoatesgilbert.com     –    @Amazon

An up and coming author to keep your eye on. Her new SUN VALLEY SERIES transports you to America’s original ski resort located in the mountains of Idaho. Her LOVE ON VACATION STORIES feature shorter stories with characters who vacation at the iconic Sun Valley Lodge. The books are packed with tales that keep both your emotions and your funny bone engaged.

 


Questions for the Author:

Tell us about a moment when you felt or were aware of the power of romance.

One of my favorite things about the wooing stage of a relationship is that our men will do just about anything to win our favor. My man was no exception. When we were first dating, he wanted to teach me how to play to golf. I, however, was much more interested in being romanced than learning to play the game. So I told him I’d go to the course with him if we could take a few pictures to commemorate the event.

Below are the pictures we took. They are both testaments to the power of romance because if my man were not powerfully motivated, there is no way he would pose for these kinds of pictures. (Note the golf ball over his eye in the second one. LOL.)

 

Tell us about an object that has powerful memories for you.

A few years back my man offered to buy me a bigger diamond for the wedding ring he put on my finger thirty-five years ago. I gently, but firmly, told him no thank-you. He’d worked all summer long when we were in college to buy me the diamond on my engagement ring. No other diamond in the world could ever mean as much to me as that one does.

Tell us about a word that has power for you.

Cherish – \ˈcher-ish, ˈche-rish\  to keep or cultivate with care and affection

When you cherish someone you put them before yourself. You show them in countless ways the value you hold for them, the adoration you hold for them, and the love you have for them. One of the brightest moments of my wedding day was when my man promised to cherish me for all the days of this life. And you know what’s really powerful? He didn’t just say the words, he put them into action.

Tell us about a powerful book you read this year (or one that’s so powerful you’ve never forgotten it).

I read a book this year called Keep It Shut by Karen Ehman. It said the average woman speaks over 20,000 words a day—and that excludes the ones she types online. It offered techniques for checking your impulse to speak when the temptation to gossip arises or when you’re ticked off and might say something that will cause permanent damage you’ll later regret. Made me squirm. Very humbling.

Tell us about a person who’s had a powerful influence on your life.

I have dyslexia. During my growing up years, I was in the “Blackbirds” reading group. I failed all the standardized tests. In high school my dad was still reading my textbooks to me because I couldn’t read them by myself. Yet I was smart enough to know I was stupid because I couldn’t do what my classmates could.

My parents vehemently denied my claims. “You’re not stupid, Deeanne. In fact, you’re probably smarter than the other kids because you’re passing and you can’t even read!”

I smile just thinking about that statement. It was what got me through, though. I never, miraculously, had to repeat a grade. Then, my senior year of high school, something fused in my brain and I was able to read without assistance. When I graduated from Texas A&M with a 2.3 there was much rejoicing.

I am still extremely slow at reading and I often have to read, re-read and re-read again the pages of the books I’ve grown to love so much. I can’t imagine what would have happened to me if my parents hadn’t believed in me, encouraged me and insisted that I was far from stupid. So … yeah. Clichéd though it is, my parents by far had the most powerful influence on my life.

Main Drawing:

Deeanne is generously giving away a hardback copy of the 2016 RITA Award winning novel in Long Historical, Tiffany Girl. To enter, leave a comment below by 11:59 pm PST August 20, 2017. (US only)

She’ll be giving away another copy as part of the US bundles, and is participating in the the tote & cup giveaway (more info. below)

There are many more drawings too—including international book bundles! See the bottom of the post for more information.

 


With a million copies of her books sold, international bestselling, award winning author Deeanne Gist has rocketed up bestseller lists and captured readers everywhere with her original, captivating historicals. Her latest release, Tiffany Girl , was touted as a “Must Read of the Year!” by USA Today  and one of the Top 10 Most Anticipated Books of 2015 by Huffington Post.

Published by Simon & Schuster, Deeanne’s awards include a RITA for Best Long Historical of the Year, National Readers’ Choice Award, Best Historical of the Year (by RT Reviewers), Librarians’ Choice, Book Buyers’ Best, Golden Quill, Books*A*Million Pick of the Month, Seal of Excellent and Award of Excellence.

Deeanne lives in South Carolina with her husband of thirty-five years.

 

Learn more:

www.IWantHerBook.com     |     Facebook     |     Twitter@DeeanneGist

 

Buy author’s books:

availableon-amazon       availableon-nook    availableon-kobo

*Please note that the Amazon button, most cover images and many text links connect to a Read-A-Romance Month affiliate portal. Thanks so much for your help & support!

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MORE DRAWINGS!

Each RARM post will have one main drawing each day (posted above). Authors are also contributing to weekly (US only) bundles, which will be drawn at the end of the week. Each bundle will consist of at least five books and the amount of bundles will depend on the amount of books the authors contribute.

(Deeanne is contributing to the US bundles, and sponsoring the cup/tote giveaway.)

To enter to win these bundles, send an email to Week3@ReadARomanceMonth.com with “Bundles” in the signature line. (1 entry per email address per week)

International friends!

Rather than individual drawings off posts, this year we’ll do sets of books, 3+, depending on how many authors contribute. To enter, send an email to Week3@ReadARomanceMonth.com with “International” in the signature line. (1 entry per email address per week)

Week 3 contests are Aug 18 through Aug. 24

For the 5th Annual Read-A-Romance Month, many of the contributing authors  are supporting an extra-special drawing – high quality tote bags and mugs printed with a fun, pro-romance image (see below).

Read-A-Romance Month, through the generous support of many of the authors, is giving away at least 30 mug & tote combos.

Plus, at least two lucky winners will win a Read-A-Romance Month “Month of Books” Mega Bundle, consisting of 31 books!

To enter these exciting drawings,  send an email to August@ReadARomanceMonth.com (US only, apologies to international friends – though keep an eye out later in the month.

(US only, apologies to international friends – though keep an eye out later in the month. I may include an international cup/tote combo.)

You will not be automatically added to a newsletter, and I promise not to sell or give your email addresses to anyone. I do reserve the right to send you an invitation to sign up for my newsletter, which will also have opportunities to win more prizes and great romance reading tips!

 

Check out all three great posts everyday in August at ReadARomanceMonth.com.  Or you can find the posts on the RARM Facebook page.  Also consider joining the Read-A-Romance Book Club page, where we discuss romance of all kinds and will have drawings and events throughout the year.

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